Have you ever been that kind of situation that you decide to do something but you just find something more fun so you decide to put your work aside. The consequence is you spend time on your “fun” activities for a long time and when you near to the deadline you realized that you actually did nothing in the past of time. You might even feel self-condemned because you wasted your time to play and your work is still not done. This is what people often called the procrastination and I believe that most people have this problem. Although I do not want to admit but I really is this kind of person, so I talk to my self and warn myself that I need to change. Now I am going to tell you what are the effective ways to break this bad habit. First you need to know: What is procrastination? “Procrastination is the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time. In order for a behavior to be classified as procrastination: it must be counterproductive, needless, and delaying.” Second we need to make sure: Why people will have procrastination? I had read a lot of articles about this question and the answer can be anything. Someone think they don’t have motivation to do it so they put to the deadline. Someone think they still have a lot of time so they choose to start later... But procrastinators are made not born it cuts across all domains of their life. Finally I made a summary: I found a suitable reason why people have this bad habit is actually attributed to the lack of self- control. The self-control ability is a person to control their own feelings and behavior. One of the fundamental points of the distinction between animals is that people are thoughtful, so that they can control their feelings and actions sensibly according to certain purposes. So when you lack the ability to control yourself your own behavior will not listen to your brain. Give a very simple example when you know that you have a work need to be handed in tomorrow, and you start thinking about to doing your homework. But you know your favorite TV program is start you know you shouldn’t watch but you can’t say no to that. When you sit down to put your attention on the TV you actually have no power to stop it anymore. The fact is if you just going to do your work and you have nice work done you can still have time to watch your TV program. The point is here we should figure out how can we say no to those enticement and how can we develop our ability on self-control especially the way to get rid of procrastination. The ways to deal it is actually not hard at all. The key to get rid of procrastination is a small change (the first step) that can bring big changes. I give an example to illustrate: in the winter morning to get up is hard but if you just sit up and pick up your clothes in that moment you will put your other clothes on immediately and you won’t just stay at your bed and play in your phone until the last minute of the school. You just need to push you self a little bit and persuade yourself to take the first step , in your subconscious you have changed your mind (you do not realize) so during this time you subconsciously think that you do not delay anymore and you will have impulse to keep doing. As long as you insist on every day to convince myself to take this small step, after some days you can develop the habit of doing things on time. Then you do not need to worry about the procrastination anymore. When you really doing this way, you are more close to be a better person.
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(Image:Tyler Lastovich) “Does the perfect person exist in the world?” This is the question that I got from my younger sister, when she was only 8 years old. I couldn’t answer her question because I always thought that a person who has strong self-esteem is a perfect person. However, it is really hard to define who’s perfect, and who’s not based only on self-esteem. Self-esteem and Standard of a Perfect Life What is self-esteem ? According to the Oxford dictionary, the definition of ‘ self-esteem ’ is “ confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect ”. Also, "Esteem" is derived from the Latin aestimare, meaning "to appraise, value, rate, estimate". Then how can we improve our Self-esteem? 1. Be positive, and be generous to yourself 2. Everyone make mistakes, at least once in their lifetime, so don’t reproach yourself for making one mistake. 3. Challenge yourself, and deal with the problems, or things that require your flaws’ to improve 4. Spend more time with supportive people 5. Try to focus on the things that makes you feel better and confident Personal Reflection Personally, I lack self-confidence, or self-esteem. I still hesitate a lot when I have to face problems that I’ve never faced before. In addition, I had to get through the racial discrimination. For example, when I was in grade 8, I felt different from the majority of the classmates because I was the only international student. All of these things made me feel small and useless. These things made me think that a person who has strong self-esteem is the ‘perfect person’, and I admired my friends who were more confident about themselves than me. Then, my mom suggested I read one book, which was, ‘Self Respect Lesson’, by Yoon Hong Kyun. Yoon Hong Kyun is a Doctor of Humanities, who wrote a lot of books that are related to Humanities and self-respect. In the novel, he says that everyone has their own flaws, and we don’t have to be self-conscious from the others. He mentioned that we have to know how to love ourselves, including our flaws. Furthermore, he says that there’s no standard for ‘perfection’. After I read this book, I suddenly realized that I spent too much time thinking about the things that are inefficient, that make me feel bad, and result in making me feel like a small person. After that book, I started to focus on the positive things, and take the focus off the negative. (Image: Julian Jagtenberg)
About the perfection These days, people are getting many information from the internet or social media. However the fault of the information on the internet is that it is repleted with the unproved (manipulated) information. Also, the pictures of celebrities or influencers on the social media easily affect many people to get a fixed definition of what is an ideal life. Perfection does not exist, and it is just a standard that people made by their own perspectives. No one can be perfect at everything. So challenge yourself, and don't compare yourself with the ‘perfect’ standard that you have made. “A garden is always a series of losses set against a few triumphs, like life itself.” - May Sarton There’s no standard for the perfect person, and no one can be perfect at everything. Therefore, be generous to your, and the others’ mistakes. Myongseo S Video related to Self-esteem Video related to Ending the pursuit of Perfection |
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