Goal setting is a great way to get stuff done. It allows you to set your own due date and when you achieve the goal it makes you feel good and accomplished. In order to set a goal there are a few guidelines to follow however it ends up be pretty freely done. I remember these guidelines as SMART goals. In SMART the S stands for specific, so make sure you completely understand what your end goal is. The M stands for measurable, which means you have exact timelines and amounts to achieve your goal. The A stands for achievable, so make sure that your goal is reasonable in that it can be achieved in the timeline you come up with, ex: saying that you can finish three projects in 2 hours is not achievable. The R stands for relevant, is the goal relevant to your end goal, so will your goal end up affecting your final target? And the T stands for time limited which means like i've said before you must have an end date in mind. Often when people get behind on schoolwork or paperwork for jobs, they get really stressed out and overwhelmed. If this happens to you then just come down and use the “SMART” strategy. Just focus on one task at a time and give yourself a manageable amount of time to do it. For more details on this strategy go here In order for this goal setting strategies to work you have to have the motivation to and want to do it. If you are doing this because you have to, it will not work. But if you actually give this a chance i promise that once you achieve your goal you will feel so good about yourself. And this can be used with more than just school but anything, sports, music, hobbies, etc… no matter what you are doing in your life you can always use smart goals to make it better. And keep in mind that smart goals can always change. This can be called a SMARTER goal which adds evaluate and re-do. So make sure you are always evaluating goals and making new ones that are better because like everyone says “you can always better it”
If you want to create a smart goal then go here. This is a very good template for making SMART goals, just enter your email address and your good! I use this at least twice a week to set my goals, it makes it a lot easier to make them because it reminds you of what to do.
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If us as a person only reflect off of self emotion then everything in life should be easy right? No, it is one of the most difficult things to do. You can try, try, and try but will never fully be able to see your full self. Emotions are what make a person a person doesn't matter how deep your emotion is for one thing it will always make you someone different than anyone else. A website for self reflection is https://www.unstuck.com/advice/ultimate-guide-successful-self-reflection/ it tells you how to easly reflect your self in varius ways. websites may not work, but if you want to self reflect by yourself there are very easy steps.
Personally I can't self reflect because if I try ,in the morning I feel different than I did yesterday. Every single day it’s the same I either feel really good or I feel like shit. I can’t even sit with anyone and have a genuine conversation without feeling like absolute crap. It’s really hard to live life with knowing your day will be crap. Everything that happens ruins the day Donovan R Parents. The definition of a parent is “a person who is a father or a mother” according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary. Yes that might be the official definition of the word but a parent can be someone who isn’t technically your biological parent as well, they can be an aunt or uncle, a step-parent, your grandparent or maybe even your best friends mum. It’s whoever you know loves you unconditionally, has taken care of you and will continue to take of you. One of the most important things to keep in mind to mainly a healthy relationship with someone who you consider to be your parent, is effective communication. Although I have both of my biological parents in my life and raising me, I also consider my aunt (who’s one of my mums sisters) to be a parental figure to me and my brothers. My relationship has always been very strong with both my parents and my aunt because we all have very open communication. One word I use all the time to describe both my mum and dad is blunt, they are two people who are very straightforward and they speak their minds. This is a good quality as well as bad because yes there is effective communication be they can also be quite insulting and mean sometimes. For example a week ago I was with my parents and I was in a really bad mood, so my dad told me “[I was” an ungrateful brat who is impossible to please and sometimes [he hated] being around [me] because [I] have a horrible attitude.” That kind of hurt although I knew that it was slightly true because I knew I was being difficult. On one hand, his open communication did help and made me realize that I wasn’t being very nice. But it also made me sad, very hurt and self conscious. Remember, yelling doesn’t help the situation, people tend to not hear things that are being yelled no matter how loud it is. So if you ever get in a screaming match with your parents, try to take a breath and calm down even if you feel like you’re about to explode. Effective communication is essential between a parent and their child. The concept of open communication is quite simple but when it comes down to it, it could be hard to be honest with who you’re talking to especially if you’ve made a mistake. Frequently, parents try to communicate with their children but they don’t feel comfortable or care enough to talk to their parents. Open communication must come from both parties in order to be effective and to serve a purpose. Imagine you’re on a teeter-totter, but the other person is just sitting there like a rock. You will either be on the ground or suspended in the air; each of these situations will leave you stuck, annoyed and most likely uncomfortable. Just like a teeter-totter, effective communication requires the effort of two people to help move it along. Here are some tips to help you communicate with your parents or parental figures: https://www.google.ca/amp/amp.timeinc.net/time/65324/7-powerful-tips-for-great-parent-child-communication I actually used some of these tips when I was talking to my parents and in result we had an effective conversation that actually progressed our relationship. Remember that your parents want to talk to you, even if you feel uncomfortable or you don’t want to talk to them, try these tips and maybe something good will come out of it. Whatever you do just don’t scream “F*** OFF” at them. It really won’t help anything. And if all else fails, buy a really inspiring picture that doesn’t actually make any sense to you and pretend you’re ok. Georgia F Stage One of Acceptance This is the honest truth about people leaving your life that you didn’t expect to leave. Sixteen year old me likes to act like I have all this experience and know all about heartbreak, but let’s be honest, I will have a lot more of it in my lifetime. Heartbreak doesn’t always come from relationship breakups, it can come from friendship breakups too. In my highschool experience, many people have come and gone from my life that I never would have expected. I once read a quote that said “If you’re not losing friends then you’re not growing up.” Losing a friend is very hard to put into perspective since they were a person that you thought was going to evolve with you. In time, you will realize is that people come into your life to teach you valuable lessons about yourself and they were just meant for that chapter of your life. Sometimes turning the page to the next chapter can be really difficult, finally letting it go. When I’m in the denial stage of my loss friendship, I remind myself of this quote, “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.” Currently in my life I just lost a girl I considered a sister to me. All of a sudden she started to act like I was invisible, completely cutting me out of her life. Since I can be stubborn and was tired of always being the one to fight for the friendship, I decided not to do anything. My best advice for being okay with a best friend breakup is that they were in that chapter of your life for a reason. So give yourself peace of mind, keep yourself busy, don’t stalk them on social media, and most importantly don’t say bad things about them behind their back. Don’t talk behind someones back just because you are upset and angry at them, be the bigger person. Stage two of New Life Now that you have started the next chapter, appreciate the good times with them. Sing along to the songs that remind you of them, look at the memories you made together in photos, know that everything happens for a reason, and what’s meant to be in your life will be. Don’t forget to carry on with your life and try new things you didn’t think you would’ve experienced before. Remember the best revenge is showing them your life is getting better now that they are gone. Here are 10 tips for a fresh start:
BY ELLA M I have not touched my planification online course since before Christmas break and it is now the end of April. Just think of all that wasted time. I probably could have done that course twice in that time. I even have a study block to use. Time we take for granted and do not often appreciate, until it's gone. Or there is wasted time well wasted, like relaxing. If you think about it “relaxing” is wasting time, because there is not a very large outcome of this time and you could probably do something more productful. Even though everyone loves to have time to relax and do nothing. When I go home and sit on the couch after school my mother often says that I am wasting time and should go do school work or go for a run etc. I see this time as a time to relax and not do work when my mother sees it as time that could be used differently and maybe even productively. So, ‘‘wasting time’’ is a little different for everyone because we see time well spent differently. Say one person was looking up the states of some professional sportsperson, for this person they are learning and this is probably not considered waste time for them but to someone who doesn't care about that sport might see that research as wasted time. We often waste time because we are trying to put off doing something or get caught up doing something that really doesn't matter. Im sure if everyone valued school/work above most other things and we did not waste time with friends and playing sports and social mediaing we could all have amazing grades/be successful. But that sounds really boring and unpleasant so I might just keep enjoying my wasted time and enjoying what I enjoy. Wait… so is wasting time good‽‽ Hear is an amazingly worded blog on the psychological importance of wasting time. (fun fact- ‽←- this is an interobang and is great cuz it's basically a question mark and an exclamation mark! Use it well!) You now know two side to wasting time, the bad-because well you probably already have it drilled in your mind that wasting time is bad and now because you just looked at that link up there in the last paragraph….. you know the positive side.
I'm assuming you have always had people yelling at you and annoying you to stop wasting time and to actually do something useful for yourself or others. That's why we see wasting time as negative thing. But also cuz the word ‘‘waste’’ is pretty negative. When wasting time stop and think, are you wasting time, or is there actually value in what you are doing? Is talking with a friend a waste of time or are you investing in the relationship. I believe it depends on you perspective and what other stuff you might should have probably be doing. So waste your time wisely. Matthew F Everyone has someone in their life who loves them whether it’s family or a significant other. There was a time in my life where I believed that I had no one who loved me. When I was 9 years old after a trip to Mexico, I suddenly started getting very sick. I did not want to get up in the morning, I was very pale, I had no energy, I didn’t eat anything, and I just sat in front of the fireplace all day. My parents took me to the doctors a few days later and all they said was that I had an infection and it would pass in a few days. A week later I was worse than before, I was barely able to get out of bed, never ate anything, and was always throwing up. My parents decided to take me Children’s hospital, where I spent most of my time over the next few weeks. Over those weeks I began to feel like the whole world hated me and everyone was out to punish me. I pushed everyone including my family, and friends. They all told me that they loved me no matter what happened but I didn’t believe them. After many exams and tests I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease https://www.healthlinkbc.ca/health-topics/uf6003 , which is a lifelong disease involving inflammation of the small and large intestines. This was a shock to my family as I had always been a healthy kid. For the next few years I struggled a lot with keeping my disease under controlled with different meds and diets, as well as with believing that I had people who loved me. Everyday I had people tell me they loved me, but I still wasn’t sure that was true. I struggled a lot throughout most of life because of my older brother, because I believed my parents loved him more. I thought he was the smart kid, and never did anything wrong. I was wrong though. One night when I was 12 my brother sat me down in his room and told me that though he got good grades in school it wasn’t because he was that smart it was because he worked for it, he also told me that he was by far a perfect child and messed up just like every other kid. I felt a lot better after that. At the age of 13 my Crohn’s was in remission, and I was getting along better at home. I have had no symptoms since I was 13, with the help of meds https://www.healthline.com/health/crohns-disease/medications , and have helped other kids dealing with the same things as me. I occasionally still feel that I am not loved, but my family and friends remind me that’s not true. Whatever is happening in your life remind yourself no matter what you are loved. Christina C At times, us leaders can become easily angered when a project of some kind we are working on hits a roadblock, or if there is an issue. We usually react negatively to the situation and may end up hurting someone’s feelings or offend them in some way. Self-control in group tasks is just as important as having control over what happens to the task at hand. It’s very easy for us to toss our morals out the window when we’re under immense pressure, so here are some tips to help you take back your self-control: 1: Look at the big picture 2: Know your emotional intelligence 3: Think about what you say before you say it 4: Take a minute to collect your thoughts I know for myself, I get easily frustrated when something goes wrong because I feel like as a team leader it all weighs down on me, and all of your negative emotions can take over and will most likely cause you to say something you never should have said. The process of building up your self-control will not miraculously happen overnight so you have to work at it day by day, and really practice your self-control so that you can evolve yourself as a leader. Good leaders (in my opinion) should easily adapt to any situation that may happen, and will always find a smart, logical way to take care of the problem rather than focusing their time and energy to pin the blame on other people. If you wish to be the fearless, confident leader you dream to be, well then you better get yourself some self-control first. Nobody will ever listen to a leader that easily lashes out at them, and makes them feel bad because they’re “not doing it right” or they “don’t get it”. People want to be encouraged, and celebrated, so think twice next time before you tell that person something negative.
Connor N Being unmotivated can stop you from doing a lot of things. It's hard to find the motivation to get your homework done eat healthy work out or pretty much anything. It took me forever just to open up my computer and work on this. There is so many things i would like to do however i feel unmotivated and like i have not enough time or simply do not feel like it. There are multiple ways to feel motivated such as set a goal, plan days in advance or get someone to help. This website has 16 ways to help you feel more motivated. https://zenhabits.net/get-off-your-butt-16-ways-to-get-motivated-when-youre-in-a-slump/ It can take a while to stop feeling unmotivated weeks days months or even years. There's many ways to try and become motivated. Personally i feel like making goals help a lot. When you reach your goal you feel accomplished like you have done something. Even just getting a simple assignment done for school can make you feel like you did that. Until you find out your grade it can either make you or break you. Whenever i get a bad grade i just stop caring. Even creating simple things to start get you motivated to help. If you want to start sleeping earlier start off gradually and build up to it. Try and find that person who will believe in you to do what your trying to get motivation for. If you don't have a person to help you try adding prize to your own goal. Most importantly believe in yourself. https://jamesclear.com/how-to-get-motivated Zoe L.
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