Wow this past year has been crazy. Looking back to who I was a year ago vs today, life has changed so much for me. Last year I lived with my parents in Burnaby and now I live in Tsawwassen with my Aunt and Uncle. Then covid happened and fast forward to today, I just graduated. Like what. Life happens fast, and sometimes it is hard to process changes. They say people are scared of change, but it’s actually the work that needs to be done for the change to occur that makes people afraid. This is because when we think of change, the first thought we have is the outcome. We set these expectations of the end result that we miss out on enjoying the process. We can also look at our goals in this way. By focusing so much on our “destination” we miss out on the experiences, and lessons along the way. There are two types of changes, planned and unplanned. A planned change could be moving schools, joining a new club, dying your hair, etc. These are easier adjustments because you expect the changes. Then there are the unplanned changes, like covid -_-. Changes like these can cause feelings of stress, feeling overwhelmed, and fear. The scary part about change is 1. not living up to the expectations you have set for yourself 2. not knowing what to expect. Sometimes, there are moments in life when change is inevitable. Personally, I think this is the hardest one to experience because when you know change is coming, you have more time to feel anxious. For me this was graduation. Graduation is a bittersweet experience because it is a celebration of your accomplishments of your past 5 years in highschool, but simultaneously you know that it is the end of this chapter of your life. HOwever, we can also see this as the start of a new chapter :) Moving forward with life is a difficult process and honestly a hard concept to accept. And it is natural for us humans to feel self doubt, anxiety, and fear when change is to come. An example of this can be moving out of your parents home. But when once you can start accepting change, you can adapt and learn. Some reasons why people struggle with moving forward is because letting go of the past is hard, and holding onto old habits and patterns is comfortable. It is important to remember that change is inevitable. Life is always changing, and as humans we must constantly adjust, if not that's when feelings of staticity arise. This happens when you don’t feel like anything significant in your life is happening, like you’re just existing. Feeling this way is normal, but if it's prolonged, it can lead to signs of depression. To maintain happiness and live a life thriving, we need to adapt to changes, and embrace the process. Without change, there is no growth. When you hold an open mind to the shifts in your life, keep a focus of what is ahead and hold onto positive life lessons, new paths get created. Here are some tips to remember to help move through change: 1. forget the past There's this quote that goes “never compare your life to what it was yesterday”. Basically remember that experiences are a part of your personal growth and to utilize them. Don’t look at the negative moments as something that holds you back, but rather as fuel to move you forward. Letting go of the past allows you to be present and ready for a fresh start. Releasing any toxicity/ negativity can help create new perspectives and focus. 2. support Don’t feel that you have to go through things alone. Find someone you can go to that encourages your growth. Through new opportunities, you can create new goals, meet new people and gain different perspectives that boost your life quality. 3. find escapes Remember that having bad days is not a sign of weakness. ANd that it is okay to feel overwhelmed with change. Finding escapes such as meditation, nature walks, or reading can be helpful to take your focus away from any negative energy 4. patience Change can happen slow or fast, but just because it doesn’t work out in the beginning doesn’t mean it never will. LEt change run its course, be gentle with yourself. For the seniors in this class, whether you have a plan or no plan, just know that you will be okay. Don’t stress and just have fun please. FOr the rest of you, good luck senior year babes. Semester system is coming and she’s gonna be interesting for you.
Kaysey H
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