People have several turning points in their life. Have you passed that already? Now that I think about it, I have a big turning point in my life… The word LGBTQ has become established worldwide now. I wonder how many people understand the word and the people. First of all, what does LGBTQ stand for? Lesbian A lesbian is a female homosexual: a female who experiences romantic love or sexual attraction to other females. Gay Gay is a term that primarily refers to a homosexual person or the trait of being homosexual. Gay is often used to describe homosexual males but lesbians may also be referred to as gay. Bisexual Bisexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behaviour toward both males and females, or romantic or sexual attraction to people of any sex or gender identity; this latter aspect is sometimes termed pansexuality. Transgender Transgender is an umbrella term for people whose gender identity differs from what is typically associated with the sex they were assigned at birth. It is sometimes abbreviated to trans. Queer Queer is an umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities that are not heterosexual or cisgender. Queer was originally used pejoratively against those with same-sex desires but, beginning in the late-1980s, queer scholars and activists began to reclaim the word. Questioning The questioning of one’s gender, sexual identity, sexual orientation, or all three is a process of exploration by people who may be unsure, still exploring, and concerned about applying a social label to themselves for various reasons. These information from https://ok2bme.ca/resources/kids-teens/what-does-lgbtq-mean/. If you want to know more about LGBTQ→https://www.wearefamilycharleston.org/lgbt-a-z-glossary/. The reason I am introducing this word is because I am part of the LGBTQ community. I am Transgender. I didn't like my body and voice becoming a girl since I was a child. My body sex is a girl, but my mind sex is a boy, so I am romantically interested in girls. Sometime people think that that is the same as lesbian, because I become like girl as girl's body, but it's totally different. When I was in junior high school, I belonged to the girl 's basketball team. We tell all of things to each other, trusting, going out together, sleepover at weekend, they were unmistakably my best friends. At that time, I fell in love with a girl on the same team. I had no odd feelings that I liked that girl; I didn't even try to hide it. As time goes by, everyone in the team knew that fact. And they began to ignore me and began to do malicious bullying. I didn't know why I was being bullied. Because I fell in love with girl? I wondered at that time, why can’t I fall in love with a girl? Just my body sex is girl, but my mind sex is boy. Is that only reason they bullying me? If so, what is the reason for bullying? If I fell in love with a girl in the form of a girl, did they think that I will become a monster at night or I suddenly lose myself and begin to hurt them? What makes you feel hatred for those people who do not match the mind sex and body sex? Can friendship relations be broken so easily? I couldn’t stop thinking those doubts. From this time I began to think about what is "Real friends". Now that I think about it , that event was definitely a turning point in my life. Every turning point may not be pleasing for your life, but you can definitely change it to a wonderful one. There is no need only one turning point. If you reach the worst turning point, next time you can strive to reach the best turning point. Now, I don't think I have many friends. I never thought of it as embarrassing. Because I can call them my best friend(or real friend) with confidence. My home mother often says this, "There is no need to be can normal person. It's too boring. I like weird. I like the person who are different from other people rather than normal people". Perhaps she may have said this unconsciously, but I have been saved many times in these words. I don't know the definition of real friend. I don’t even want to look for it. No matter how serious, painful or pitiful it is, I call the person real friend who tries to understand and stay with me.
My lesson for you: ・It is better to have fewer real friends than many fake friends. ・People who "just" hang out with you might not be real friends. ・People who fully understand you are rare and precious. Kai I
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Definition: “the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected” -Google Dictionary So just think, basically you have a relationship with anyone you have interacted with. That means we all have a shit ton of relationships… friends, family, teachers, etc.- the list goes on forever. They can be great and positive but a lot of the time you may find that you have plenty of negative relationships for stupid little reasons that just sit there. Especially when you have petty and annoying immature people involved, so high school right? It seems as if you need way more positive relationships to outweigh the negative ones. Thats why its so important that you do your best to not piss people off for no reason, because the negative relationships have way more of an effect on you then the positive ones. Relationships just seem to get harder as we grow up, but i'm hoping they eventually get easier. When we were little it was great, we had a best friend or two and literally anyone could be our new best friend after a minute. As school continues our friend groups change and people do mean stuff to people or people over react and it just turns into a never ending shit show. There is literally a million things that you could do or not do to piss someone off and a great relationship that you depend on can go right down the drain. But there is normally some time to fix things but that is when so many people do the wrong thing out of anger or other emotions and that relationship could end indefinitely. Or you do the right thing and get pass whatever happened and you become closer and understand one another better. This is just too complicated. “The better you know yourself, the better your relationship with the rest of the world” -Toni Collette I guess that why friendships and relationships at young ages are so complicated? Who knows, just blame it on the hormones. And not to be sexest or anything but why are girls friendships so petty and complicated!!! That I still don’t understand, but here is a great blog to look at if you care to venture into that scary subject. Relationships have so much of an effect on us. They can control our lives or our moods and even other relationships. They can lead us to great depression and misery and confusion or be the reason we overcome such things in our lives. On the other hand they can be the best thing in the world. Those people who you love so much and bring you so much happiness to your life can be the most important things in ones life. So many people take so many relationships that they have for granted, and that truly is one of the saddest facts. Such fragile things that can mean the world to us or be the end of our world. That's your choice. You chose if you are going to remain hateful. You chose to forgive or forget. You chose what to dwell on. You chose who is in your life. You might not always make the best decision at the time but you can chose to learn from those mistakes.
Relationships are an amazingly important thing for us. So take a while and look at yours, it could change your life. You have the power to change them for the better and worse. Use that power appropriately. Matthew F Have you ever been in a situation you are unhappy with? Well I have. When I arrived here in Canada I didn't have a good start. My host family wasn't there yet (they were still in europe on vacation) so I had to stay with their grandmother for ten days. She was super nice but she definitely didn't know what to do with me. At this time I didn't have any friends either so I was all alone in my room the whole time. I mean it was kind of my fault because I didn't do anything about it. I could have gone out and talked to some people I have met before but I was still in my german world so I stayed at home and did things that reminded me of germany, like watching weird american Youtubers talking about germany. I've never done that before but since I'm here I am just listening to german music for no reason. Of course I know about the big differences between the two countries, like the language but there are little things I try to ignore but they still make me crazy. For example the door handle, I am used to pushing it down but here you usually have to turn it to open. The doors just won't open that's why I run into every single door! But this Blog isn’t meant to be about me, it’s actually supposed to help you change things or situations you're unhappy with. Here is an idea of steps you can follow if you don't know how to start:
I did the same.
There were so many things I wanted to change but the worst thing for me, was that I had no friends. I still don't have any Canadian friends but that's ok at least I have tried to talk to some of them. I am still way too shy to just come up to kids and talk to them so I called a friend of mine, who is the most self-confident person I know and she actually yelled at me to get my act together be more outgoing and simply be myself, and that helped me so much, I’m so thankful for her little “speech”. The advice for the future i want to give is actually that if you want something to change you have to do it. you have to make the first step because it is your turn to handle things now . do not wait until someone reads your mind and to does it for you because that is not going to happen. And that's exactly what makes you independent and strong Viktoria D. |
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