Money is not omnipotent, but no money is absolutely impossible. This is a well-known saying. It is true that 70% or even more of human troubles are related to money, but most people are often unexpectedly blind when dealing with money. Most people think that as long as I have a high income, or as long as my current income increases by 10%, any financial problems in life will be solved, but there are too many examples in life that ruthlessly overturn this view, such as Most people who win the lottery will return to the original point of wealth in a short period of time, or even worse. In fact, an increase in income often leads to an increase in expenses, which leads to more troubles! K In fact, money also has management principles, so what is the principle of managing our money: 1. Develop the habit of keeping accounts. Write down every penny of the words on the paper, so that we can clearly see where every penny of ours has gone. 2. Make a financial budget that suits you. It is the spending budget. The true meaning of the budget is to make our lives more secure when we live according to our own budget. 3.Increase income outside of work. This can make your budget more adequate and enjoy life better. There are many side jobs, pay more attention to your surroundings. 4.The increase in income does not mean the increase in expenditure. Now is a society full of material desires, and people's income is getting higher and higher. The pleasure of dopamine produced by consumption is far inferior to the pain and anxiety caused by fiscal deficits. We all want a higher level of life enjoyment, but in the long run, keeping our expenses within our budget can bring us more happiness. Kaelen F
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Conversation is inevitable. A conversation holds much more power than we think it does. As humans we yearn for human connection; interaction. An exchange of energy, where both are paying attention to one another. Here is where we begin to deepen the moment, inspire change and build trust. I have had many eye opening events happen to me in the past few months. I will be sharing what techniques and thought processes that have led me with the mindset I have now.
The last couple months before hitting 2021 have been on the crazier side. For all this to make sense I will have to start at the benign, of late September. My dad was faced with many losses on his extended side of the family. With my grandparents being ill, he consciously made the decision to go see them. Within just a week of my fathers arrival, my grandfather passed away. In Albania, when there is a death there are gatherings. With covid lurking in the corner, it was just a matter of time. After about a week and a half after, my father and most of the imitated family got covid. Leading to my grandmother's death in mid November. Unfortunately my uncle was unable to be there. It was hard to see him lose his parents and not be able to grieve properly. I often went to my uncle's house to make sure he was doing good, but i was told not to talk about what was going on. Searching for a way to grief with the loss was only possible when my dad got back. It is very important to mourn the losses of loved ones. During this time, I was working mercilessly. Working six to seven days a week, working the next days of my grandparents death. When living far away from family and not having them in your daily life, it's easier to forget. When my dad first got back he was an absolute mess, emotionally and menatally. It's hard for anyone to lose their parents. My father and I sat down and he was telling me the conversations that he had with his father and mother. He explained to me how they passed, showed me the funerals and explained everything. Hearing about how my grandmother passed was very upsetting. Seeing how truly painful and uncomfortable she was is devastating. My father explained to me how it was much easier to grieve for his father than his mother. The reason being, he was able to have conversations, share his thoughts and feelings with many people. He heard new stories about his father that he hadn't heard before and they were able to talk about the situation. I had let go of my “obligations” and took a step back to figure out what I wanted for my life. By taking a moment to reflect on time, conversations, myself and others. What really helped me doing that, was finding a space that was isolated and that was enjoyable. Somewhere I felt comfortable and expressed any emotion freely. I also found myself using techniques that Mr Hortness discusses in the class. I think it is very important to take advantage of the lessons that are taught in this course. Especially the lessons that help with self improvement. But also how to take the lesson and tweak them to work better for you. One technique I used was the gratitude journal. However, I didn't necessarily write them down, it was more menatlly. It is the single most powerful source of inspiration that any person can tap into. Another one that I found useful, was surrounding yourself with things that keep you inspired and change your mindset, “choose what to consume.” As humans, we can be brainwashed with everything we consume. It changes our perspective, our mindset and the way we live the rest of our lives. I took the time and extracted those that I compared myself, who were not adding value to my life. As much as possible I started consuming content and following people that would most help me fulfill my purpose. The things we consume we think about and eventually we become. My mother was taking care of our close family friend that we have known for the past 20 years. She was diagnosed with cancer about a year ago and she was unable to care for herself when her symptoms got worse. And snice one of the obligations that I had let go was my job. I assisted my mom and helped her with all that needed to be done. This included, grocery shopping, talking to pharmacists and doctors, and dealing with whatever problems arose. My mom would go five times a day to make sure she was taking her pills and would cook and clean for her. She has since passed, and with no family close by, we have been left dealing with her affairs, and trying to figure things out as they go. Finding myself in adult conversations and running around like a headless chicken. My mother and I were in a game of catch up. I would go from packing things in boxes to showing potential buyers the house, consulting with lawyers, and meeting all of the people that were close with her in the community. The only way I was able to succeed with these tasks was because I had a beginners mindset. When facing new challenges with a beginners mindset, you need to be able to put embassament aside and not focus on that feeling. And be comfortable with conversation. Many of the conversations I was having at this time were with the elderly. As most of them have lived out the majority of their lives, and me just begging to start mine. I headed into these conversations with a beginners mindset. Having an attitude of open mindedness and eagerness to learn, I asked questions. Started gaining insight and listening to people's past. Encouraging to share more and more with me. Let me tell you something you already know. The world is not all sunshine and rainbows, it's a mean nasty place. Nobody hits as hard as life.There are moments where you're going to doubt yourself. There are rough times that are going to come, but they have not come to stay, they have come to pass. It's important to know that. It's about how much you can take and keep moving forward. Gotta be willing to take da hits. I learnt that the past and future don't exist, they are not real. Your past is just your memory, and your future is just your imagination, it's only real in your mind. The only real moment is the present. But since then we've been taught to look at life as past, present and future. Many are missing the one moment that truly exists. We need to eliminate the past and get rid of the future and “be here now or otherwise you'll miss your life.” -Buddha https://thedashpoem.com/the-dash-poem-printable/ Albuna M Calm your mind and allow me to take you on a mental vacation with me. We are traveling to a small tropical island in the French Polynesia. Our items are all packed up for the next two weeks, in preparation for our relaxing getaway. The plane awaits our company at the airport. We are now on the plane, soaring 35 000 feet in the sky, above the clouds where we are as close to the sun as most of us will ever get. The flight goes so smoothly that we are able to rest, occasionally peering out the small window at the huge world. We have now landed in paradise, and the resort staff kindly welcome us as guests with fresh pressed local mango pineapple juice. When we look to the east, we see a very distant image of the coast in California, and to the west is australia. We are right in the middle of two populations carrying out their everyday routines of early morning work and school yet we are enjoying a break from reality. This is our home for the next two weeks, with no worries or responsibilities. It is time that we focus on ourselves. Whether the destination is near or far, by car or by plane, vacations are a great method to escape and relax the mind. Reality, although very important to understand, is difficult to manage every day, of every month, of every year. We often get carried away and forget how important it is to be mindful not only of others, but especially ourselves. We can choose to travel with friends if that is when we are most content and ourselves. We can travel by ourselves and do a mental reset if that is what you are in need of. I personally have found that without being able to travel due to restrictions, that I feel less relaxed and that I could use a four month long vacation at this point in time if only it were possible. Covid has had the effect that every day is a repetition of the last. In fact you are not alone if you have these thoughts, forty-six of the fifty people I surveyed about this question had said they agreed with that statement and I also do. Of course we can’t have any major excursions during the pandemic, but in case you are holding on to the hope of being able to get away for a vacation soon here are some things to help prepare:
Although traveling isn’t the solution to all of your problems, it still feels amazing to treat yourself with a break from reality and to sit back and enjoy the little things. At times we are so caught up in our worries we forget just how big the world is, and the opportunity that lies out there for grabs. Take a mental vacation.
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