People often tell me that they do not know what I am thinking. However, people also tell me that I am so calm, empathetic, and that I am skilled at psychological analysis. I was born and grew up in the Philippines, an island country. My uncle told me that I was famous in the neighbourhood for being very emotional. I was always laughing, crying, and running around. After spending a couple years of my childhood there, I left my home country and lived in Japan with my father. At that time I was still an emotional person, but my personality changed a lot when I was in grade 8. Frankly speaking, I was bullied about my gender. They enjoyed watching me suffer, knowing there was nothing I could do to stop them. Even though I was an emotional person I struggled to understand why I couldn't properly express my anger and frustration. This was the turning point of my emotional state. The emotions I lost first were hope and anger. This happened when I consulted the teacher about being bullied and asked her for help escaping from the endless suffering. However, since the group that was bullying me had leadership in my class and were popular people who were trusted by teachers, she was unwilling to support or help me. She said that I must have misunderstood what they were saying and that the fault was mine, even though she regularly witnessed them bullying me and knew the truth. After hearing this from my teacher hope turned to "nothing" and anger turned to "give up". However, I am convinced that by experiencing this I became stronger and gentler than before. I have come to think more about people's feelings, and I have come to understand the pain of people who are suffering or struggling. There is a saying, "A person who can cure a person's wound is a person who has a scar". The meaning of this is that anyone who can understand pain or suffering is someone who has previously experienced similar pain or suffering. There have been several moments in my life when this quote has proven to be true. Those who can share the sadness of heartbreak are those who have undergone heartbreak in the past, and those who can empathize with the fierce anger of being cheated on are also people who have been betrayed in the past. Surely I have become quieter then before and more logical than emotional. Maybe I've become a more boring person than before, but I like myself now especially as someone who can empathize with people's pain. Maybe I hang out with my friends less often than before, but I like being a person who stays home to take care of my family and enjoy time with them. There will be people who don't understand your current character and people who will judge you but you do not have to change yourself. Other people can not directly change you or cause your growth because you can only do those things yourself.
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As a little kid I never imagined how hard it would be to say goodbye to things I had known for practically my whole life. I had never really thought about it, but as I got older I realized how hard it was. I realized that saying goodbye to people or things never gets easier as time goes on no matter how many times you have to do it. Saying goodbye doesn’t always mean that someone has passed away, it could also mean someone moved has moved away, or you’re moving into a new chapter in life. In my life there has been two distinct times I have had to say goodbye and one that is coming up soon. The first one was in April 2011 when I was diagnosed with a chronic disease, that would change me. I had to leave life as I knew it behind. A website that really helped me after being diagnosed was https://crohnsandcolitis.ca/ a website and foundation for people diagnosed with crohn’s or colitis. The second was in 2015 after my brother graduated from high school and was moving into residence at UBC. We had always been really close as kids and the fact that I wasn’t going to see him everyday got me upset sometimes. There were times when I would be lying in bed at night thinking and just start to cry because of how much I miss not having him around. I had never thought about life after he moved out and how much it would change my own life. The final thing that is coming up quite soon is graduation, which is something I am nervous about and also excited as I will be moving into a new chapter in my life. I am moving to Winnipeg in August, away from everyone and everything I know and am used to. I wanted a change after high school but also wanted to keep going to school. I will have to say goodbye to my family and I won’t get to see them everyday which is also nerve racking for me. Saying goodbye is difficult but is something we all have to do. Christina C Many people would love to be a professional athlete and believe that it is all about physical skills. They may not realize that there are also mental skills that are needed to become successful. Physical and mental preparation is the key to become a successful athlete. Different athletes have their own self preparation going into a competition. I have mine as well. There are two preparations that I think are very important to do: Preparation ahead of the event and on the day of the event If you want to become a great athlete, you definitely need to plan well ahead of time. When I have a big swim competition coming up, I will plan a week ahead of the actual racing day. I will slowly reduce my training schedule when getting closer to the meet and a week before the meet will also increase the amount of sleep that I get. I want to make sure I am in the best shape as possible as I don’t want to go into the meet with a injured arm or sore shoulder because that might make me perform poorly. When the competition date gets closer, I also need to change my diet. I will stop eating red meat 48 hours before the meet, and only eat healthy vegetables and white meat like fish and chicken instead of beef and pork. I will also increase the amount of carbohydrates and water before the meet so that I can get all the acid out of my body. Again, preparation ahead of the event is very important. This will help a lot going into the competition date. Even more important than the competition pre-planning will be the preparation on the day of the meet. If you’re an athlete, you will know that competition is much more tiring than all the training before. You’re always in a stressed and nervous mood throughout the day, so the preparation on the day of the competition is very important. First of all, the arriving time on the racing day. You want to be at the area you’re going to race 75 mins before your actual race event. This can fully wake your body up. For example, in a swimming competition, if you go to the pool too early, you will feel more tired because you put yourself in that stressed condition earlier than everyone else. If you arrive too late, your body won’t have time to warm up so you will have a higher chance of getting more injuries and not performing well. Second of all, the nutrition before and between the events is critical. Nutrition will make you maintain your stamina and energy. I will eat a granola bar 30 mins before my race and eat some light fruit in between my events. Lastly, if there’s prelim and finals, I will sleep for an hour in between the sessions in order to relax my body and to make me feel fully prepared for the final swim at night. If you have had good preparation, you can perform better and will be faster in your race. To conclude, preparation is one of the top keys to become successful. Planning ahead of the time will make you feel more confident and fresher than you normally do, and preparation on the race day will allow you to focus on your swim and give a higher performance. Your best performance is for you and everyone else.
Eric T I have a bad habit. Whenever I have to do an assignment or project which I can predict that I would have difficulty with, I easily get distracted. Then I procrastinate and end up choking myself at the last minute. I usually escape to my phone, visit Instagram or open other social media and come back to Instagram. This cycle over and over again even there is no notification. Or worse, start watching movies or go to Youtube until I realize it has been two hours and feel so terrible. I don’t want to spend time like this. Especially during this limited three years of high school here outside of my home country, I want to focus on what I am supposed to or explore more about things that actually will benefit me. Browsing on phone make time passes so fast, but I would never feel fulfilled. Some major causes lead to a lack of concentration; are stress and anxiety. The biggest one for me, are phone and my soft tofu-mental which farther myself from things I have to do. They are a huge distraction not only while studying but also my daily life. I wake up and check notifications. I sometimes eat and look at the screen at the same time. When I take a shower, I again bring my phone to listen to music. I hardly can spend any minute without my phone, and the one letting these happen is me. It is beyond the addiction, it is more becoming a lifestyle. I didn’t have my phone when I was young, even after I got my first smartphone, I still could spare my time for the priorities than my temporary interests unintentionally. Since when do I have to think not to let myself slide thoughts of resting than keep going? I needed to do something with this bad habit so I tried screen timer on iPhone or deleting social media app, Youtube or Netflix, yet I always come back to bad routine Finally, a great opportunity appeared. Since my phone screen cracked when I dropped it on May 1st, and it completely untouchable so I haven’t used my phone. It hurts looking at the broken phone, but this incident was what I needed. I did not have to conflict with self, because the solid object was simply not working. Also as I actually experienced phone-free school days, I found out that it is inconvenient obviously, but I could feel less suffocated and controlled. It could be the totally same thing for any other that leads to a lack of concentration. Just try to spend a day without whatever trapping you. Forcibly put yourself in a situation or space where you cannot reach them, other than cracking the screen. Not every time I have a broken phone. It would be great if I had strong mental and with perseverance, I could prioritize tasks and then don’t have to have a hard time struggling to concentrate. A similar trait one person could have is grit. Angela Lee Duckworth explained, “It is to have passion and perseverance for long-term goals, having the stamina, sticking with future for years and working really hard to make that future a reality”. She also said “Grit is usually unrelated to talent, or even inversely related to measures of talent”, which could mean it is a trait we can develop. I am sure grit is not something we gain overnight, coming over hard times and gradually acquire a strong mindset. Time is always passing equally to everyone, how to spend is all different. Let’s have one however you want to spend that makes you fulfilled.
It’s summertime again and the sun is finally shining. For me that means going out and doing stuff with my friends instead of staying in my warm and cozy bed like during winter. But why is it that are we so much more motivated and have more energy in the summertime? And in general how do we get motivated? Okay, i get it, of course we are excited for summer when it has been cold and rainy outside for a long time. We can finally do sport outside, sit in a cute little coffee shop and just be active. i can personally say that i am more likely to do so in the summer. But there have actually been studies showing that sunlight has an influence on us, for example on our social behaviour. But it is not always nice out and sunlight is unfortunately not the only thing we need to motivate ourselves so here is what else can help us with motivation: 1. success: success is motivating! when you work hard on something and it turns out well you are more likely to work harder and to put effort in your next project 2. to-do list: it personally motivates me when i have a to-do list that i can work on and see how it gets shorter and shorter r 3. result: keep your goal in mind and remember what kind of result you want to achieve 4. reward: give yourself something you can look forward to or that you can treat yourself with if you did a good job For me these tips help to motivate myself, when i need to study for an exam or finish an
assignment, for example. On the other hand, staying motivated is a whole different skill that is very important if you want to improve and work on something in the long term. Viktoria D. |
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