I've been in Canada for 9 month and I only have 2 and a half months left to go. Right now, I am having the hardest time of my life. That is the Cultural Difference. This is stressing me out everyday. One day, I had to video chat with my teacher in Japan about how I was doing in Canada. At that time, my hair was brown. I thought it was okay to dye my hair in Canada, but I guess it wasn't. When my teacher saw my hair, she got mad and told me to cut my hair as soon as possible. I couldn't believe it. I'm in a place where dying the hair is allowed and still, I can't dye my hair? Because I'm from a school that doesn't allow dying? That is crazy!! I bet Japan is the strictest country in the world. They think dying your hair is a bad thing. My teacher told me that it is not good for the school image. Wow, they care about the school and not the students? I just don't want to go back. I never thought about cultural differences affecting my life this much. I think it's because I'm not a typical Japanese. I used to live in the United States for 4 years when I was young and the life in the US has changed me a lot. When I arrived in Canada, I felt like coming back to home. I thought Canada was my home country. My family, friends, I was having a fantastic time with them and suddenly, because of my hair colour, back to reality. I want to enjoy the rest of my time in canada but because of this, I'm stressed everyday and having a tough time. Ryunosuke M
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Stage One of Acceptance This is the honest truth about people leaving your life that you didn’t expect to leave. Sixteen year old me likes to act like I have all this experience and know all about heartbreak, but let’s be honest, I will have a lot more of it in my lifetime. Heartbreak doesn’t always come from relationship breakups, it can come from friendship breakups too. In my highschool experience, many people have come and gone from my life that I never would have expected. I once read a quote that said “If you’re not losing friends then you’re not growing up.” Losing a friend is very hard to put into perspective since they were a person that you thought was going to evolve with you. In time, you will realize is that people come into your life to teach you valuable lessons about yourself and they were just meant for that chapter of your life. Sometimes turning the page to the next chapter can be really difficult, finally letting it go. When I’m in the denial stage of my loss friendship, I remind myself of this quote, “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.” Currently in my life I just lost a girl I considered a sister to me. All of a sudden she started to act like I was invisible, completely cutting me out of her life. Since I can be stubborn and was tired of always being the one to fight for the friendship, I decided not to do anything. My best advice for being okay with a best friend breakup is that they were in that chapter of your life for a reason. So give yourself peace of mind, keep yourself busy, don’t stalk them on social media, and most importantly don’t say bad things about them behind their back. Don’t talk behind someones back just because you are upset and angry at them, be the bigger person. Stage two of New Life Now that you have started the next chapter, appreciate the good times with them. Sing along to the songs that remind you of them, look at the memories you made together in photos, know that everything happens for a reason, and what’s meant to be in your life will be. Don’t forget to carry on with your life and try new things you didn’t think you would’ve experienced before. Remember the best revenge is showing them your life is getting better now that they are gone. Here are 10 tips for a fresh start:
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