Strange things happen when people realize you’re leaving a place - I feel that they immediately back away. There’s nothing wrong with it, it’s a scientific human reaction. A form of self preservation. I’ve seen it and felt it so many times but now as graduation appears it all seems so real. I never thought it would be so hard leaving a place I had no desire in coming to for so many years. I’m now at the realization that most of my friendships have expiry dates. It’s a part of graduating, everyone moves away and life just happens. Some friendships last forever, but others just become strange. Someone you’ve seen every day for the last five years suddenly is gone from your life. new beginnings So how does one adequately say goodbye to the place that shaped them for so many years? Frankly, that is something I’m in the process of figuring out. Nobody wants to deal with the exhausting task and emotions of figuring out how . Victor Hunter and his words are something I think about quite often, one of my favourite quotes being on the idea of goodbye. “ Today I must say goodbye. Goodbyes are important. Without a meaningful goodbye, an effective closure, there cannot be a creative hello, a new beginning and hopeful commencement… in saying goodbye to each other and to our current ‘home’ we are able to greet and affirm new hope and anticipation. We affirmed the new journeys yet to be taken, as individuals and as a family.” I see the beauty in leaving somewhere in that it means you’re starting a new chapter - growing as a person. As humans we prefer to leave things in stand-by, just in case. Goodbyes are a very grown up thing. Not being able to turn back is painful. I’m not sure when it will hit me, whether it’s when I’m walking across the stage, cap and gown, or when I’m sitting in an empty classroom, after everyone's gone. Either way I know it’s coming and it won’t be easy. The pounding weight on my chest of what is to come, is not only holding me back but pushing me towards a new future. Something bigger and brighter. High School has taught me so much about the world, and about endings. Taught me about relationships, but made sure I had room for new ones. Reminding me that nothing is permanent, but no good thing should ever be taken for granted. And as I throw myself into my future, I’ll remember what it means to say goodbye, and how it shapes me as a person.
Emma O
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There are 24 hours, 1440 minutes, or 86400 seconds in a day. It seems like a lot; in reality, it is not. Every morning, I wake up with a to-do list swarming through my head. “I’m going to do this, I’m going to do that.” It is one thing to say something, but another actually doing it. So, you get the motivation, free up your schedule, and get your hands dirty. 9am, you have a set, well thought out, minute by minute schedule that you have packed as many tasks and jobs into as you possible. You finish your first task and decide to take a little break. So you sit down, do some savasana, listen to some music, and breathe. Before you know it, an hour has passed, and you are way behind schedule. You try your best to finish all of your remaining tasks, but you only end up getting through the first few. That super fun task that was your motivation to get moving is missed. By the end of the day, you are exhausted as it has taken a toll on you. The next morning, you get up and form a schedule in your head, similar to the previous day, though, there is a slight downfall. When you are forming your schedule, you must add what you missed the previous day, as you do not want to put off an important task. So you prioritize and work in order of due dates, therefore, you do not finish a task too early, or leave it to the last minute. The day has passed, and you have finished all the tasks that needed to be completed from the previous day, as well as tasks from the present day. Though, you are back to square one as you will need to use the next day to complete the remaining tasks from the present day. When you look at this on the grand scheme of things, it is never ending, and that is life. Yes, in order to be successful you must put in the time and effort, and that is most prominently evident through work; though, I personally feel that I am not paying attention to my life in the present. I am simply flashing forward to the future, and focusing my efforts towards building a strong future for myself. Sure, it is important to work hard right now, because your younger years will dictate your life as an adult (or at least that is what I am told). One question that constantly swarms my head has finally made sense to me: “What is the point of focusing all my efforts towards my future, and burning myself out so much that that future never comes to be?” I have come to draw out this thought and have realized that yes, building your future is important, but if you don’t live in the moment, what is your future really worth? After reading 11 easy ways to you can fit mindfulness into your busy life by Leo Babauta, I developed a strategy that is sure to benefit everyone and their busy lives: slowing ourselves down, even if the clock keeps ticking. If you sit still and do nothing for a few moments, simply breathing, you will be less stressed and anxious when completing your daily tasks. If you keep a less packed, flexible daily schedule, you will have room to add in other things as the day goes on. Lastly, do not think about too many things at once; this causes unnecessary stress and anxiety that will affect you and your cognitive and physical performance. If you focus all of your attention to one single thing, you will be able to complete that task to the highest quality in half the time it would have taken if you tried multitasking. Mentioned below are some early signs of burnout and how to prevent and avoid it.
Out of the twenty four hours in a day, we spend one third sleeping. We spend another third working or studying away, whatever our occupation may be. That leaves us with the last third of the day. This chunk of time ends up being used as preparation and commute time before and after our occupations, and then household chores and other commitments in the evening. That leaves us with little to no time for OURSELVES. Self care is the most important thing and should be people’s number one priority. We were born with one head, two arms, two legs, one heart, one body. We are to take care of our bodies as they are the only ones we get. We must honour this duty and take care of our ourselves, because our futures will be worthless without our bodies get us through it.
Janeva S For the last little bit I have been majorly struggling on what I wanted to do after high School. But then I had a long talk with my parents and realized that it’s ok to struggle a little bit, there are always people there to help me. Graduating and starting your life is really terrifying especially if you’re like me and have no idea what your path in life is all about. The strategies I am using and will continue to use forever are simple. I accept that I don’t know what the future holds, I work towards my short term goals which are doing the homework assignment I missed or studying for a test that is coming up. I get asked all the time ‘what School are you going to after high School?’... I never know what to say I am just awkward and say ‘I’m not sure yet’ or ‘I don’t really have one in mind yet’. People don’t always know what they want to do straight out of high school and there are many options for you. You can stay home and get a job, try to earn some money. Another option is you can travel if you have money saved up. Or even take a year off, work full time for that year and if you still have no clue what you would like to do? Travel! One of my biggest dreams is to travel to world, I want to go to every country and just live my life like that. Obviously you can’t travel forever, I believe travelling will help you maybe find a passion or a different point of view of your life, I’m hoping something will just click or I will see something that I’m driven towards that will help me find my career path.
It’s very hard to get a handle on things these days if you have no idea what you want to do. Maybe you just haven’t found your passion yet and that’s alright not everyone has yet! I certainly haven’t, I’m graduating soon and my life is going to start, my real life. I’m not going to see my best friends everyday in Spanish class or choir class, there’s no more signing up for flex class with Mrs.C I will be working and traveling and figuring out my life my way. If you’re scared to leave high School like me or have not a clue what you want to do after you graduate, talk to your sibling or family or friend they understand the struggles of graduating and how terrifying it is. There are always options for everyone that will help you get through this difficult time. Sophia Ross There is no denying that setting a goal is very important. We find that successful people are always those having and achieving their goals. They set goals, short-term or long-run, to help realize their visions. Why is goal-setting important? By setting goals you are taking control of the tempo of your life. It is having a map to guide you to where you want to head for. With a clear direction, and with certain plans, you will straightly get what you want. On the contrary, without a goal ,you will live a wandering life. You do not know where to go, what you want and why you are listless. Then your life becomes dull and meaningless just like the dead water in a muddy lake. All people should have their own goals. Whether this goal is a positive energy goal or a negative energy goal, but it is better to have a positive energy goal. If you can't complete a long goal you can try to complete a really short goal. When I first came to Canada, my English was really bad and bad . I set myself a goal at that time to remember 10 words a day. Although I didn't complete this small goal every day, but it was also much better than no goal. If there is no such as a goal, I may not remember any word. There are three kinds of goals: short-term medium term and long-term goals. Short- term goals are those that usually deal with current activities, which we can apply on a daily basis. Such goals can be achieved in a week or less, or two weeks, or possibly months. It should be remembered that just as a building is no stronger than its foundation, our long-term goals cannot amount to very much without the achievement of solid short-term goals. Upon completing our short-term goals, we should date the occasion and then add new short term goals that will build on those that have been completed. The medium-term goals build on the foundation of the short-term goals. They might deal with just one term of school or the entire school year, or they could even extend for several years Any time you move a step at a time, you should never allow yourself to become discouraged or overwhelmed. As you complete each step, you will enforce the belief in your ability to grow and succeed. And as your list of completion dates grow, your motivation and desire will increase. Long-term goals may be related to our dreams of the future. They might cover five years or more. Life is not a static thing. We should never allow a long-term goal to limit us or our course of action . From my point of view, goals are not difficult to set and realize. First, you should
make clear what you really want, which constitutes your goals .Then you make detailed plan and follow the through, as many winners do. http://www.keepinspiring.me/why-you-need-to-set-goals/ https://www.mindtools.com/page6.html Haobo L Do you sometimes feel insecure? I believe many people have such experience: After chatting with someone you like, or after communicating with your big boss, people often regret what they said wrong, and which behavior is somewhat stumbling. In fact, these are the manifestations of psychological anxiety. Many people are eager to deny themselves, instead of objectively analyzing the facts, they immersing themselves in self-blame, and suffering in their feelings. In fact, the other people may not have noticed which sentence you missed or which action did not perform well. This is not a bad thing, and many people share these issues with us. We just need to find a solution to the problem. The family environment played a crucial role in the character-building phase of a child's childhood. Why do I say that? Like many parents who do nothing by themselves, but they blame their children for not learning, not working hard. Many people around me encounter pressure and problems at work, at love, or even in family relationships. First of all, they do not analyze the problem objectively, but instead suspicion and denial of themselves, they fall into self-blame and chagrin. If people fall into failure they end up without confident, than they fail again, and even less self-confident. This will become an endless loop. A Primer in Positive Psychology, written by American psychologist Christopher Peterson, puts forward many good psychological adjustment methods, simply summarizing translations: when we make mistakes and blame others; At the time of regret, many of us first felt that we were having problems. After we began to blame ourselves we also blamed others and complained. The end result is that the problem has not been solved, but on the contrary, it becomes very painful. The method of analyzing problems in "Positive Psychology" is: firstly analyze why it happened. Is this bad thing mainly due to environmental factors? Or because of their own factors? Through the objective relationship, we can solve the problem very well. In many cases, it may not be our personal reason, because some objective factors and other people's influence cannot be controlled by us. Many people often do not consider these issues and do not pursue other people's responsibilities. Instead, they are accustomed to seeking problems from themselves, and often fall into self- reproach and humiliation. The no sense of security can be explained that you fear that what you care about will be out of your control. Many people are accompanied by some anxiety and worry but these can be relieved through self-regulation. The potential dangers in everyday situations and the tendency to evade certain activities. The more worried you are, the stronger the desire for control. There is a psychology called “deprivation of the super mechanism” for the explanation of the causes of control. Once you have a "deprived of control over the one thing you care about, you lose
it," the more insecure your heart becomes, the stronger your desire for control becomes. This is why many people also have a strong desire for control in a relationship, mainly because they are afraid of losing and being afraid to stay away. It is not difficult to solve them, except for the methods mentioned at the beginning. There is also other different ways that help with it. Find more way of creating emotional safety in relationships: http://www.livingwellcounselling.ca/creating-emotional-safety-in- relationships/ When we encounter problems, we must first go and relieve our emotions. When we are in pain, we must refrain from refusing ourselves. We must first analyze the situation and try to understand our emotions, then we must regulate them. Over time, you will feel safe. Finally, a small tip When there is no sense of security in love, you just need to calm done, and do something that makes you happy. Life is short, if someone do not like you, you will always figure out. Jennifer C |
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