The concept of social boundaries is an important cultural component to our society. It is necessary to adhere to certain boundaries in order to maintain order in our society. One could ask what exactly does crossing a social boundary mean? It is not appropriate in polite society to tell someone what you really think of them, when you don’t like them. Crossing this ‘personal’ boundary could hurt their feelings and this is negative and inappropriate. Another example of crossing social boundaries is when you start to bring personal problems into the workplace. As much as your coworkers may ask you how are things going, it would be inappropriate to tell them all of your existing problems. They don’t really want to hear them anyway. Crossing certain boundaries can lead to emotional and political problems in your personal and work life. I guess some exceptions are accepted when crossing social boundaries. Are these exceptions influenced by society or by your own judgment? They can be influenced by both and they can be valid exceptions. However, if you're solely relying on your own judgment, you're going to cross some boundaries that will cause you to question your decision. For example, I had a friend that was in an abusive relationship and she wasn’t really seeing it; she was in denial. One day she called me to tell me that her boyfriend wouldn’t let her leave the house the night before and had put his hands on her. I just remember screaming at her for a solid five minutes that she had to break up with him. I had no filter and after that, I realized that I shouldn't had told her to “break up with him right now!” However it wasn't the first time someone had said this to her and eventually she did get out of the relationship. At this point one could say that it was proper to say something in this situation as the result was positive. There is also a negative side to crossing boundaries. I lost a friendship because I crossed boundaries and said things to this friend, when it was not my place or business to say anything. I betrayed a confidence that a friend had told me in private. I ended up telling this private matter to another friend. Of course, my friend was very upset once she found out that I had betrayed her and our trust was broken. I certainly learned from this mistake. She was very hurt and rightly so. Sadly, we are no longer friends. In a nutshell, boundaries are here for a reason and sometimes they are crossed. But it’s what you do next that really matters. It is always important to learn from one’s mistakes and to understand that boundaries do exist in society for a reason. Long ago, society was very strict and formal. People adhered to many strict boundaries within their own culture. It was important that women act a certain way for example and that they adhered to a strict moral code. Men too also had to follow certain rules. They were the ‘breadwinners’ of the family and had to act and dress accordingly. Thankfully, our society today is less strict. However, it is important to still retain certain social codes of behaviour in order to maintain civility in our society. It will be interesting to see where our world will be culturally in this aspect, in the next 100 years. Latham A
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I’m sure that those clothes you bought online, the cupcakes you baked last night, or all of the social media platforms you last checked weren’t on your “to-do” list. Procrastination, defined by google, is “the action of delaying or postponing something”. It’s not exactly a good trait to have, and thankfully there are ways to overcome it. There are in fact ways to train even the worst of procrastinators into getting things done within a respectable timeframe. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/better-perfect/201703/11-ways-overcome-procrastination lists 11 ways to achieve eliminating procrastination from your life. There are many reasons as to why people tend to procrastinate. No deadlines, no interest, and anxiety are all common reasons. Say you’re given an assignment to do over christmas break, naturally you’ll do it towards the end of the break, right? Sometimes a little bit of time pressure actually forces you to get it done. But what if you find out that marks wont be taken off if its a little late, so you leave it a little longer. There's no harm in that, right? Wrong. When you're given a deadline for an assignment, you're only cheating yourself if you don't get it done by that specific time. When you're not interested in something, usually it takes everything in you to actually focus and get that task done. Often this just turns into it not getting done or being done at the very last minute possible, which isn't exactly the best way to go about getting things done. Anxiety is something that provokes procrastination greatly. Often if theres something that needs to get done that induces an anxious mind frame, it'll be put off until the very last minute possible. The best way to overcome this is instead of trying to tackle everything that's on your to-do list at once, break it all up and tackle one thing at a time. Take things step by step and you'll be amazed at what you can accomplish.
Brooklynn M Did you value someone’s ideas years ago but not anymore? I had someone that I looked up to when I was little but a few years ago that changed. Google defines a relationship as “the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected”. There are relationships in which love is involved but there are also those in which its just yourself. The foundation of loving yourself is self love. Maybe you don’t like the way you look or you just want to change, some people say that you can’t but if you want to and you put your mind and effort in it then you can change anything about yourself. Relationships with anybody isn’t always easy, and overtime they will change and you may decide that some relationships aren’t worth your time or energy and others you may want to work out and try. I know that I had someone who I looked up to or admire but as I got older my perception of them changed drastically and no longer look up to them. One of my relationships is one of the most important relationships that I have and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. The relationship that I have with my older brother is one of my favorite and special relationships, if I want to talk to him about anything he will always be there, and if there’s something I don’t want to talk to my parents about he will be there and will not judge. He will just sit and listen and comfort me. InMind Your Reality http://www.mind-your-reality.com/change_your_relationships.html, Tonia Ross talks about how your relationships mirror you and your beliefs. I think that this is true that what ever you believe in and care about will affect any relationships that you have whether that relationship is with yourself, with a family member or a romantic relationship. No matter what relationship your in romantic or not they can change and will keep changing as life goes on. Christina C
Leadership starts with yourself. I personally believe that this is something a lot of people overlook when they think of a leader. But the reality is, you can’t lead other people if you are not capable of leading yourself first. Self-care is many things, but also one thing, all at the same time. Whether it is keeping procrastination levels under control, meditating or self reflecting, self-care is necessary for managing stress and helping us be present in our daily lives. I am someone who is always on the go. My mind never turns off, and I noticed that started taking a toll on my grades, friendships and overall quality of life. So I knew I had to do something. I knew I had to take my self-care into my own hands, except I didn’t know where to start. Self-care has so many manifestations! From getting a good sleep every night; to eating a healthy diet; meditating and exercising regularly; - it all seemed so obvious - but so essential to being happy, productive, and fulfilled at school and in life. This article by the Huffington Post put me on the right path to figure out where I needed more self-care in my life. But really, how does this all relate to leadership? Well, unfortunately, many high-achieving leaders admit that self-care is at the bottom of their to do lists. It’s so easy to make excuses when you’re busy. In short, taking care of yourself is part of our job. It isn’t optional. Paul Sohn explains, “If you really want to reach your full potential, you need to be at your best where you have the full mental, emotional and physical energy. And if you keep ignoring self care you’ll keep performing at a sub-par level.” Okay, so the point is: it’s important to work self-care into our lives, in order to become better leaders. But how do we do that when life just gets so busy? The first step, is to take a step back and recognize that taking a break isn’t selfish. It’s necessary for you to function at your best capacity and necessary if you ever want your team to grow. Then, you need to schedule time for self-care. Quite often you will feel that you have no time in your day for it, but, in all honesty, you need to make time. So, write a to-do list; start a bullet journal; write a note on your phone; however you keep track of your daily life, start making specific time for yourself. If you have specific time allocated for your self-care, you’re less likely to skip it. Now that all the importance of self-care has been established, here are 5 tiny ways to amp up your new found self-care routine:
With a small bit of attention to your self-care, the fog will lift. I can guarantee that you will feel better and see yourself becoming a better leader. Keeping yourself in tune will help you keep others in tune.
Emma O
It's a real fear not everyone can get over. It's a real everyday struggle, stepping over the hurdles of avoiding it. Part of being a leader is being able to speak in front of people. If you are confident in public speaking the point will come across more clearly.
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