Have you ever been in a situation you are unhappy with? Well I have. When I arrived here in Canada I didn't have a good start. My host family wasn't there yet (they were still in europe on vacation) so I had to stay with their grandmother for ten days. She was super nice but she definitely didn't know what to do with me. At this time I didn't have any friends either so I was all alone in my room the whole time. I mean it was kind of my fault because I didn't do anything about it. I could have gone out and talked to some people I have met before but I was still in my german world so I stayed at home and did things that reminded me of germany, like watching weird american Youtubers talking about germany. I've never done that before but since I'm here I am just listening to german music for no reason. Of course I know about the big differences between the two countries, like the language but there are little things I try to ignore but they still make me crazy. For example the door handle, I am used to pushing it down but here you usually have to turn it to open. The doors just won't open that's why I run into every single door! But this Blog isn’t meant to be about me, it’s actually supposed to help you change things or situations you're unhappy with. Here is an idea of steps you can follow if you don't know how to start:
I did the same.
There were so many things I wanted to change but the worst thing for me, was that I had no friends. I still don't have any Canadian friends but that's ok at least I have tried to talk to some of them. I am still way too shy to just come up to kids and talk to them so I called a friend of mine, who is the most self-confident person I know and she actually yelled at me to get my act together be more outgoing and simply be myself, and that helped me so much, I’m so thankful for her little “speech”. The advice for the future i want to give is actually that if you want something to change you have to do it. you have to make the first step because it is your turn to handle things now . do not wait until someone reads your mind and to does it for you because that is not going to happen. And that's exactly what makes you independent and strong Viktoria D.
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Connor
10/15/2018 11:18:37 am
I love this blog because I find myself actually trying to answer the same questions. I find it hard sometimes to not be not happy, but small goals one after another help me get there.
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Marika
10/15/2018 11:19:19 am
I thought this was really brave of you to talk about this subject of being un happy ! It shows that confidence is really a key factor! Always here if you need a friend :)!
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emily
10/15/2018 11:20:03 am
thank you for sharing!! i can totally understand how coming to a new country and not knowing anyone could feel really lonely and scary. but the ways that you are working on achieving your goals to help you here, are very helpful for anyone not just someone new from another country! really enjoyed your blog post!
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Christina
10/15/2018 11:21:57 am
I really liked your blog! I liked how you were able to connect a personal experience to it, and I also really liked the steps that you gave to get started.
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Jack
10/15/2018 11:22:35 am
I understand what your talking about in this blog, i know a few exchange kids and they have also told me the same thing. Just keep trying to put yourself out there. You also have an entire class of friends in leadership who are here to talk and chill with.
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Jake
10/15/2018 11:22:52 am
I can relate to this because change can be very difficult at times and it can be hard to change certain things that you are used to. I've grown to accept change even if it is something I'm uncomfortable with if it is better in the long run. This was very well written and something that everyone can relate to.
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Janeva
10/15/2018 11:24:12 am
this is super inspiring :) My grandparents are from India, and so when I visit, I am never able to fully connect with the culture because of language barriers. I get how it can feel like you are submerged in your world. I am glad that you have overcome it; thank you for sharing tips! I really liked your motivational concluding speech; to gain strength you have to take the first steps and handle it on your own - I believe that it is the only way to grow as a person and a leader!
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Kat
10/15/2018 11:26:20 am
Vicky, I really like your blog, I’m pretty shy as well and I felt the same way you did when I first came to high school. But as time went on I learned how to get better at talking to new people. I liked how you said that you can’t wait for someone to read your mind because that’s not going to happen, I completely agree; if you want something you gotta get it yourself. I also think your 6 steps are very helpful!
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Anna
10/15/2018 11:26:32 am
This is a great blog and I can certainly relate to it from my personal experiences. I know that it's hard to come to a new and unfamiliar place, and that taking action is hard. You are never stuck with a situation that you can't get out of and that you just need to have courage and the desire. Your blog reminded me of this and also that if you want to be happy, it's up to you to make a change.
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Matthew
10/15/2018 11:28:30 am
That is such an important thing to remember, not waiting for people to do your things for you. I think everyone can relate in one way or another to your situation, but I guess that’s a good thing for you cuz that means most people will understand. Good for you for doing your best ans realizing what you need to do.
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Martin Gao
10/15/2018 11:30:06 am
Making native friend is a very important step that all international students need to make. It helps you alot on your language and makes you feel more accepted. I sure alot of us in the class and school would like to be your friend.
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Kai
10/15/2018 11:32:00 am
I can sympathize with your blog, because I am also international student like you. It is not easy to make friends coming to a foreign country. And ironically, we have to act from ourselves for make friends. Sometimes it will make you go crazy and lonely. But we must get over it. Because that is the way of your choice...
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Georgia
10/15/2018 11:32:34 am
I absolutely loved this blog! It kind of made me sad at the start because you said that you stayed in your room for ten days, and then you said you don't have Canadian friends. I'll be your friend! I liked that you made this blog personal but you also gave tips to improve an unhappy situation. Well done!
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Maiko Okamura
10/15/2018 11:37:21 am
Taking first step is big things and need courage to do, especially in different country. I deeply understand this situation which is because I am also in this situation. Thank you for the tips and probably I should take some time to think about my goals rather than just waiting for the problem solved by itself.
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Lina
9/16/2022 02:17:17 pm
As an exchange student I can really relate to this blog. It's so hard to start a new life in a different country without knowing anybody at all. Everything seems weird everybody is a stranger at first you don't recognise a single face when you go out or at your first days of school. Even the keypad is different than at home. But this blog really gave me some motivation to keep pushing forward, talk to new people and try to make the best of the 5 months I'm still here.
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I don't know how I could ever be an exchange student if im being honest. A whole new school with whole new parents, for the amount of time you are there its basically a different life. I have a really hard time talking to people that ive known for 8+ years I dont think I could even get a word out to completely new people never the less make any friends.
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