The concept of social boundaries is an important cultural component to our society. It is necessary to adhere to certain boundaries in order to maintain order in our society. One could ask what exactly does crossing a social boundary mean? It is not appropriate in polite society to tell someone what you really think of them, when you don’t like them. Crossing this ‘personal’ boundary could hurt their feelings and this is negative and inappropriate. Another example of crossing social boundaries is when you start to bring personal problems into the workplace. As much as your coworkers may ask you how are things going, it would be inappropriate to tell them all of your existing problems. They don’t really want to hear them anyway. Crossing certain boundaries can lead to emotional and political problems in your personal and work life. I guess some exceptions are accepted when crossing social boundaries. Are these exceptions influenced by society or by your own judgment? They can be influenced by both and they can be valid exceptions. However, if you're solely relying on your own judgment, you're going to cross some boundaries that will cause you to question your decision. For example, I had a friend that was in an abusive relationship and she wasn’t really seeing it; she was in denial. One day she called me to tell me that her boyfriend wouldn’t let her leave the house the night before and had put his hands on her. I just remember screaming at her for a solid five minutes that she had to break up with him. I had no filter and after that, I realized that I shouldn't had told her to “break up with him right now!” However it wasn't the first time someone had said this to her and eventually she did get out of the relationship. At this point one could say that it was proper to say something in this situation as the result was positive. There is also a negative side to crossing boundaries. I lost a friendship because I crossed boundaries and said things to this friend, when it was not my place or business to say anything. I betrayed a confidence that a friend had told me in private. I ended up telling this private matter to another friend. Of course, my friend was very upset once she found out that I had betrayed her and our trust was broken. I certainly learned from this mistake. She was very hurt and rightly so. Sadly, we are no longer friends. In a nutshell, boundaries are here for a reason and sometimes they are crossed. But it’s what you do next that really matters. It is always important to learn from one’s mistakes and to understand that boundaries do exist in society for a reason. Long ago, society was very strict and formal. People adhered to many strict boundaries within their own culture. It was important that women act a certain way for example and that they adhered to a strict moral code. Men too also had to follow certain rules. They were the ‘breadwinners’ of the family and had to act and dress accordingly. Thankfully, our society today is less strict. However, it is important to still retain certain social codes of behaviour in order to maintain civility in our society. It will be interesting to see where our world will be culturally in this aspect, in the next 100 years. Latham A
14 Comments
Makaela
12/15/2017 10:30:28 am
This is a great blog and very relatable for everyone
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Connor
12/15/2017 10:37:43 am
I totally agree. We really do need social boundaries so that nothing gets way out of hand
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Zoe
12/15/2017 10:38:52 am
Boundaries are good to have. Without them things can get out of hand.
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Christina
12/15/2017 10:39:20 am
I totally agree!! Boundaries are very important
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ella
12/15/2017 10:40:54 am
This blog post is very understandable to compare to my own personal life. Hard to know when your going to cross a line in a relationship.
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Janeva
12/15/2017 10:42:03 am
Totally agree! Boundaries are important to our society, but should not dictate how we live. Boundaries should be guidelines as to how we function in society. Great blog, it was super relatable!
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Emma
12/15/2017 10:46:30 am
This is a really great blog! you made some really good points!!!
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Matthew Fayle
12/15/2017 10:47:20 am
this is a great reminder that boundaries are so important and so oftenly crossed and forgotten.
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Georgia
12/15/2017 10:52:57 am
I definitely know a couple people that should really read your blog and realise that they are crossing boundaries, i'll gently and kindly recommend your blog to them.
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donovan
12/15/2017 10:55:08 am
boundaries are the one of the most important thing about a relationship with a family member, a friends or even a companion. I once stepped to far i saw that my friend was in a relationship that she was not comfortable with him but she didn't want to hurt him but once she did come around she got mad at me for ruining there relationship and she stopped being friends with me
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brooklynn macham hengstler
12/15/2017 10:58:31 am
I totally agree with the content, some people really dont know when to stop and take things way too far. I think its good that at least some people realise that there are boundaries and follow them and talk about them, so the people that dont realise have a chance to see that there are certain boundaries that should not be crossed
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Julia
12/15/2017 10:59:15 am
The boundaries are so crucial in relationship with the others. This blog points out exactly how I feel about the social boundaries.
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donovan ross
1/15/2018 11:09:36 am
boundaries are the most important people are never comfortable without there personal space
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jack chadd
9/11/2018 11:29:15 am
I agree, boundaries are quite important and people need to do a better job of not crossing the fine line.
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