Stage One of Acceptance This is the honest truth about people leaving your life that you didn’t expect to leave. Sixteen year old me likes to act like I have all this experience and know all about heartbreak, but let’s be honest, I will have a lot more of it in my lifetime. Heartbreak doesn’t always come from relationship breakups, it can come from friendship breakups too. In my highschool experience, many people have come and gone from my life that I never would have expected. I once read a quote that said “If you’re not losing friends then you’re not growing up.” Losing a friend is very hard to put into perspective since they were a person that you thought was going to evolve with you. In time, you will realize is that people come into your life to teach you valuable lessons about yourself and they were just meant for that chapter of your life. Sometimes turning the page to the next chapter can be really difficult, finally letting it go. When I’m in the denial stage of my loss friendship, I remind myself of this quote, “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.” Currently in my life I just lost a girl I considered a sister to me. All of a sudden she started to act like I was invisible, completely cutting me out of her life. Since I can be stubborn and was tired of always being the one to fight for the friendship, I decided not to do anything. My best advice for being okay with a best friend breakup is that they were in that chapter of your life for a reason. So give yourself peace of mind, keep yourself busy, don’t stalk them on social media, and most importantly don’t say bad things about them behind their back. Don’t talk behind someones back just because you are upset and angry at them, be the bigger person. Stage two of New Life Now that you have started the next chapter, appreciate the good times with them. Sing along to the songs that remind you of them, look at the memories you made together in photos, know that everything happens for a reason, and what’s meant to be in your life will be. Don’t forget to carry on with your life and try new things you didn’t think you would’ve experienced before. Remember the best revenge is showing them your life is getting better now that they are gone. Here are 10 tips for a fresh start:
BY ELLA M
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Sophia ross
5/7/2018 10:47:37 am
I like this blog I’m glad you felt you could share your heartbreak I have been through many ‘friendship breakups’ and I agree if you just believe they came into your life for a reason and they taught you something about yourself no one else would’ve brought out.
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jacob
5/7/2018 10:47:46 am
i agree that remembering the past is a good thing but dwelling on it can be a bad thing because then you never move on and you tend to go about life trying to get it back when really you should be trying to find new things in life.
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Latham Antonissen
5/7/2018 10:48:26 am
I honestly agree with Ella’s overall statmemt. Don’t dwell on the past. You gotta keep moving forward with an open mindset.
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Makaela
5/7/2018 10:49:31 am
I love this blog because instead of seeing all the negative there is a positive thing to be seen that it’s ok this is a part of life and it’s normal and it’s ok to be in pain and sad and upset and angry but this was a lesson for you and a chapter for you getting older and to be able to move on to the next chapter I really like that awesome blog
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Georgia
5/7/2018 10:50:43 am
This blog is perfect timing for me because one of my good friends recently distorted our friendship, so thank you. I agree with you that you should look back on it and remember the good times rather than try to hide from it. Good blog, I like how you related it to LAPD at the end
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Christina Coburn
5/7/2018 10:51:22 am
I loved this!! The tips were very helpful! I have definitely lost a friend that I was really close with and it hurt me pretty bad.
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donovan
5/7/2018 10:51:33 am
lossing a great friendship to either another person or them moving away or even not like them anymore is still very sad i had to say good bye to one of my best friends he was a dog named orka he died of bone cancer
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Connor
5/7/2018 10:52:37 am
This is probably my favourite blog so far. I totally relate to the pain of letting go of a friend and learning to grow as a person.
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Janeva
5/7/2018 10:53:31 am
Thanks for the tips on fresh starts! I have been brooding over broken relationships for too long; really just want to move and start clean! ALSO, your blog is very nicely structured!
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Emma
5/7/2018 11:02:19 am
Love this blog so much. I have lost a lot of friends and gained a lot more over the course of high school. One in particular that was very special to me. As my high school career comes to an end I realize that a lot of my “friends” were fake friends and the ones who really meant a lot to me stuck by me, even if they weren’t ones I spoke to on a daily basis. Friends come and go and that’s part of life. Great blog
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Marika
9/11/2018 11:32:32 am
Woah Ella this is amazing and very relatable!
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