There are many aspects of confidence; I lack all of them. I always have and I sincerely hope that I’ll eventually acquire some tiny little morsel at the very least. The official definition of confidence is“A feeling of self- assurance arising from an appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities”. I’ve decided to narrow the big concept of “confidence” down to self-confidence. There are 3 main facets to self-confidence in my opinion, which are self- acceptance, self-esteem and self-efficacy: 1. Self-acceptance: To accept yourself you have to forgive your mistakes and faults whether its years ago or just yesterday. It is a human emotion to feel that we need to be “normal” but there are a few people who choose to be different and to be proud of their differences. Those people have accepted themselves and they’re generally happier, inspire other people and make a difference in the world. 2. Self-esteem: Self-esteem is all about your self-value and how important you think you are. Here is a list of important tips to keep in mind- ~ Don't over criticize yourself. ~ Reflect on your good qualities every day to remind yourself how great you are. ~ Set achievable goals and then achieve them at your own pace. ~ Remind yourself that there is no such thing as “perfect” and nobody has the right to expect you to be. ~ Accept your mistakes and move on, if you dwell on them it will only bring your self-esteem down. ~ Make an effort to be kind to the people surrounding you and who are in your life, you will view yourself as a nice person. ~ Don't compare yourself to other people. ~ Spend your time with supporting and loving people. Another approach to self-esteem is self-love; before loving anyone else, you have to love yourself. Many people strive to demonstrate their worth to other people such as their friends to get approval, but in my opinion you only have to approve and love yourself. If you feel the need to prove yourself to your friends then maybe they aren’t really good people to call “friends”. Some people may say that this is very selfish to love yourself before other people, and I don't completely disagree with that. There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness; you can love yourself but not too much love that you are self-centered. To make sure that you aren’t giving yourself too much love, check in with yourself every day. 3. Self-efficacy: Self-efficacy is your belief in your ability to succeed in or
achieve a specific goal/task. I think self-efficacy is very important because is you don’t believe that you can succeed then you will most likely not try. Self-efficacy and self-confidence are widely though to be the same thing, but in reality, as I mentioned previously, self-efficacy is the belief of your abilities that you will complete a specific task. Self-confidence is the overall belief that you will complete multiples tasks. Confidence is important because it impacts your successes and your happiness, and therefore you as a person. Self-acceptance, self-esteem and self-efficacy all are a big part of confidence and can help you grow as a person and improve your life. I’m not saying that everyone should be confident to have a good successful life, because some people just aren’t confident and that's ok. As long as you love yourself and you are happy with your life, you’ll be fine, although confidence and mainly self-confidence can improve your life and enrich your experiences. Just be happy. Georgia F
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Dan
12/6/2017 01:31:48 pm
Confidence can also be in different areas. Someone who is not confident around other people may be confident behind the wheel of a car, or with math, or with a pencil crayon in their hand, or behind the controller of a video game. Confidence and self-esteem don't apply for every person in every situation. The smartest person in the world can be very confident when approaching their chemistry set, but not confident at all when approaching a microphone to give a speech. Self-esteem is about finding the area of life where you ARE confident, and building yourself up from there.
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hayley
9/11/2018 11:35:08 am
This was a great blog post about self confidence and a reminder that self confidence is not always necessary and this is something a lot of people deal with. it was also a great reminder to move on and not to dwell on tings you could have done differently in the past.
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