“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice." -Steve Jobs I never liked dresses, dolls, ballet classes or what little girls are supposedly supposed to like or do. I have always played multiple sports, been a total book nerd, lived in jeans and the extent of my dancing is swaying side to side snapping or sometimes spontaneous square dancing with anybody who’s unfortunate enough to be around me. So naturally, life has served me plenty of identity crisis moments and I’m sure there will be a copious amount to come in the future. The first minor identity crisis was when I was 13 years old. Let me set the scene. It was the end of grade 7 and the graduating class of 2015 was celebrating our completion of elementary school and the upcoming progression to high school. I remember asking all the girls what they were going to wear to the awards ceremony and the dance; dresses or pretty skirts were described, accompanied with cute shoes and maybe a purse. I didn’t own a dress, nor did I have a skirt or purse. At this point my life I was at the peak of my Adidas warm-up pants/runners/athletic shirt combo and wouldn’t have been caught dead in any kind of shoes other than converse or runners. The dance was of course fancy dress but I had pleaded with my mum multiple times over the course of weeks if I could wear jeans and a nice top. Long story short I ended up wearing a dress. I remember crying on the way to the ceremony and hating every time I had to cross my legs because of the stupid flowery dress. I felt ugly and sad because I didn’t feel comfortable and didn’t want to wear what everyone else was wearing. The Merriam-Webster dictionary’s definition of identity crisis is “personal psychosocial conflict especially in adolescence that involves confusion about one’s role and often a sense of loss of continuity to one’s personality”. Most people experience their first identity crisis in their teens generally revolving around their personality, social status, gender role physical appearance and many other things. Personally, my identity crisis was that I was so confused about why I was so different to kids my age, I never wanted to talk about it so I stayed quiet about my feeling of isolation and continued on with my life. For a long time I wanted to pretend to be someone I wasn't in order to fit in and I was having a lot of trouble with my identity. Flash forward to now and I’m happy and comfortable with my quirky personality and I like being different. Here is a website that I remember reading and sometimes I look back at if I just to check in with myself. It's important to know that going through a period in your life where you are uncertain of yourself, your worth or your identity is normal, but it's also important find help concerning your situation. Here are some tips for dealing with an identity crisis, especially during adolescence.
I regret not opening up sooner about my state of very low self-esteem, because I’m sure that talking to somebody would have helped me feel less alone. And so, if you don’t like dresses, dolls or ballet classes then that’s ok, just figure out what you do like and love yourself unconditionally.
Georgia F
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Connor
9/24/2018 10:40:49 am
I’m your number one fan. I find this blog to be so important because a lot of people are struggling with their identities and sometimes don’t even know it. They should definitely check out this blog if they are struggling in that area
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marika
9/24/2018 10:44:07 am
reading this was really inspirational thank you for opening up and sharing your story this was something amazing to read and shows u can be who ever you wanna be! writing this takes a great deal of confidence u go girl!
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Janeva
9/24/2018 10:44:50 am
Super inspiring! Love your word choice and reference to square dancing! Thank you for sharing your experience; your blog is extremely well constructed and conventional.
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Kassidy
9/24/2018 10:47:14 am
I love this blog, i can relate to it, i don't like dresses or most 'stereotypical' girl things. Some people are judged for being different but being different makes you, you. if every girl was the same the world would be boring. i think being unique is what makes us all who we are, and that's awesome!
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Maiko
9/24/2018 10:55:40 am
I like this blog and am inspired. I sometimes feel difficult being different from others too, but you really describe how I feel. Thank you.
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Vicky
9/24/2018 10:59:57 am
I loved this blog! I takes so much confidence to talk about that!! there are a lot of people who can relate to it and who need the same aplomb as you.
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hayley
9/24/2018 11:04:15 am
I thought that your blog post was really interesting both with how you felt like you weren't able to fit in just being yourself and also how you searched for solutions, that you shared in this blog. It is especially a great blog because you were able to write from personal experience.I can definitely relate to " For a long time I wanted to pretend to be someone I wasn't in order to fit in and I was having a lot of trouble with my identity." this, especially in elementary school. Every time i had to dress up and wear a dress or skirt i always felt really uncomfortable. like how you were in your story and feeling that i din't fit in because i didn't dress like any of my friends ( actually i still don't), being the only girl not to join choir, not being obsessed with every band member of one direction and being the only girl not taking a dance class. I remember feeling really uncomfortable and out of place. I think your blog post will be really helpful to anyone who has or is going through a similar situation.
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Kai
9/24/2018 11:24:06 am
I really sympathize this blog. I have many experiences like the same situation as you. I think like I will lose myself if I cannot show my true self to everyone.
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