Parents. The definition of a parent is “a person who is a father or a mother” according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary. Yes that might be the official definition of the word but a parent can be someone who isn’t technically your biological parent as well, they can be an aunt or uncle, a step-parent, your grandparent or maybe even your best friends mum. It’s whoever you know loves you unconditionally, has taken care of you and will continue to take of you. One of the most important things to keep in mind to mainly a healthy relationship with someone who you consider to be your parent, is effective communication. Although I have both of my biological parents in my life and raising me, I also consider my aunt (who’s one of my mums sisters) to be a parental figure to me and my brothers. My relationship has always been very strong with both my parents and my aunt because we all have very open communication. One word I use all the time to describe both my mum and dad is blunt, they are two people who are very straightforward and they speak their minds. This is a good quality as well as bad because yes there is effective communication be they can also be quite insulting and mean sometimes. For example a week ago I was with my parents and I was in a really bad mood, so my dad told me “[I was” an ungrateful brat who is impossible to please and sometimes [he hated] being around [me] because [I] have a horrible attitude.” That kind of hurt although I knew that it was slightly true because I knew I was being difficult. On one hand, his open communication did help and made me realize that I wasn’t being very nice. But it also made me sad, very hurt and self conscious. Remember, yelling doesn’t help the situation, people tend to not hear things that are being yelled no matter how loud it is. So if you ever get in a screaming match with your parents, try to take a breath and calm down even if you feel like you’re about to explode. Effective communication is essential between a parent and their child. The concept of open communication is quite simple but when it comes down to it, it could be hard to be honest with who you’re talking to especially if you’ve made a mistake. Frequently, parents try to communicate with their children but they don’t feel comfortable or care enough to talk to their parents. Open communication must come from both parties in order to be effective and to serve a purpose. Imagine you’re on a teeter-totter, but the other person is just sitting there like a rock. You will either be on the ground or suspended in the air; each of these situations will leave you stuck, annoyed and most likely uncomfortable. Just like a teeter-totter, effective communication requires the effort of two people to help move it along. Here are some tips to help you communicate with your parents or parental figures: https://www.google.ca/amp/amp.timeinc.net/time/65324/7-powerful-tips-for-great-parent-child-communication I actually used some of these tips when I was talking to my parents and in result we had an effective conversation that actually progressed our relationship. Remember that your parents want to talk to you, even if you feel uncomfortable or you don’t want to talk to them, try these tips and maybe something good will come out of it. Whatever you do just don’t scream “F*** OFF” at them. It really won’t help anything. And if all else fails, buy a really inspiring picture that doesn’t actually make any sense to you and pretend you’re ok. Georgia F
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Latham Antonissen
5/17/2018 11:29:26 am
Gotta start off, great title haha. I totally agree with you, communication in any relationship is a key and especially the one with your parents.
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Makaela
5/17/2018 11:30:04 am
I really liked this and I think it could be a very useful thing and I could use it with my parents I like how you can learn from this blog and take away from it
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donovan
5/17/2018 11:32:28 am
my communication with my parents are the best me and my Mom usually communicate the best in a funny matter but with me and my dad we have the most deep and personal conversations only because me and him have a lot in common
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Christina Coburn
5/17/2018 11:32:28 am
I think that having good communication with your parents and parental figures is very important. I don't always have good communication with my parents, so I think the tips will be really helpful. I loved your blog!!
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Jennifer
5/17/2018 11:33:39 am
I was wondering about title at first, and i find out . I just want to share what I learned a definition of family is that family is someone who might hate you, but if you dead they are the first response for you.
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Emily
10/6/2020 02:19:33 pm
Great blog! ever since I was young I was taught the importance of communication within family members and friends. Being able to experience ur needs and concerns in a respectful way is the basis to a healthy relationship
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