How to forgive? What does it mean to forgive? Is it easy? What does it do? The power of forgiveness is a healing process, not only let go of hatred and avoiding it to take you over, it’s the trust of its power to heal the pain. Today, at this moment, my family is going through a process of being able to forgive after a dreaded painful 7 years of no communication. Sending birthday cards or Christmas gifts doesn't solve the problem, it doesn't take away the pain of the past. In situations like those saying “I forgive you” isn't the same as doing it. It’s just a word right! You can’t forgive if you don't know what happened to you in the situation. What affected you, and others, for what reason, and why. So why do we need to forgive? There isn't any shortcuts to healing or moving on, neither is it gonna save you or others, it’s not designed to do that. It’s designed to set you free! Free from all the pain that has been in you, the pain that kept piling up full of anger, confusion and hatred, all of those emotions will depend on your decision that will release the resentment towards a person or a group who has harmed you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning. Though forgiveness can help a damaged relationship, it doesn't obligate you to rebuild the connection. Instead it brings the forgiver a peace of mind and frees their pain and anger. This TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOzJO6HRIuA really opened my eyes and made me realize that I'm lucky for who I have in my life, not only made me feel the pain of the struggles they went through, they made me realize that forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. In my life I have forgiven before but did I really know why I was forgiving, not quite sure, but I knew my part of the story, and stories, we are the ones who hold the power to change them. Although the details of our lives may be different, but the parts where we are stuck in pain throughout parts of our lives are the same. I encourage you to change the path and rebuild your life, because things that held you down will one day hold you up. Amelie.G
10 Comments
Maya Sanghera
2/3/2020 10:41:18 am
Wow this blog really opened up my eyes. You really emphasized the fact that forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting, which is really important. Sometime we think forgiving means feeling obligated to find peace and starting fresh, but that is not always the case.
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Brianna Jassmann
2/3/2020 10:43:48 am
Thanks for this insightful blog, it has really helped me realize the importance of forgiveness and how it is an essential part in different relationships.
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Emilie
2/3/2020 10:44:37 am
I really like the way how you wrote your blog. You showed me important advice how you can forgive somebody and that it is important to figure out what happened with myself so that I am able to forgive somebody .
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Rookie
2/3/2020 10:51:57 am
Nice, blog!
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Nevada
2/3/2020 10:53:06 am
I liked how you made this so personal and emotional. It was nice that you showed your readers what it meant for you and offering advice through telling a story of your own struggles.
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Dianna
2/3/2020 10:54:07 am
I'm learning that it is ok to forgive but forgetting is the harder fight because you'll be stuck with the pain that it's costed but it's ok to feel pain after trying to forgive someone for there mistake but we all make mistakes we all aren't going to be perfect
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Georgia
2/3/2020 11:01:33 am
Good blog, I think forgiveness is really important and that it's usually more for us rather than the person we're forgiving. Over the years I have found myself forgiving people for whatever happened even if it was something really bad or something that shouldn't be forgiven in my opinion, but I always make sure I let the person know that I might be forgiving them but I won't ever forget what happened. I can usually forgive something if it's small but as soon as the little memories start to build up of all the small things that person did; that's when I cut them off.
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Shirley Huang
2/3/2020 11:05:10 am
Forgiving others is not easy. Instead, it can be a time-consuming challenge. It is a process, so you have to be patient with yourself. Forgiveness is for yourself and not for others. It helps you heal the pain. If you care too much about the negative influence others have on you, you will lose a lot of valuable energy that could have been used to realize your dreams.
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Jenny
2/3/2020 01:13:49 pm
Very nice blog, its nice that you shared your family story as it's clear this means a lot to you.
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Nyah Gentry
10/6/2020 02:24:34 pm
This was beautifully written I found it very close to my heart as I was reading it. Forgiveness is something I struggle with. I have so much love to give but It’s really hard for me to trust people, and once they break that it’s gone forever. Although it’s hard forgiveness is a beautiful thing. It helps me heal. “Just because we fell out doesn’t mean I wish bad upon you. I still wanna see you eat just not at my table. “-Tupac
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