If you found your friend tripped over in the middle of the hallway at school, or if you saw old women walking with a heavy bag, you would go up to them and offer help? When someone close to you is in difficult situation and seeking help, you will at least listen to he/she. You are kind. But why should we be kind to others? One of the reason is simply because you will feel better and improve self-esteem due to your action. Or it might be because “be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle” which Plato once said. Kindness is in the cycle, if you be kind to someone, that someone would be kind to you. Then let’s see what you would say If you tripped over in the hallway at school, you would probably go like “I’m stupid, hope nobody saw that”. Once I was practicing the piano for the recital, I made mistakes with the same part over and over again, I was so tired of myself, and “Why do I keep making the same mistake? Why can’t I even do this easy simple stuff?”. When something bad happens, we blame ourselves. This is not only because of my lack of self-confidence, but because I am hard on myself. Not being strict, being mean. Sometimes people are required to be mean to urge to sacrifice yourself in order to make better results. However, we tend to be too mean at times. If the person tripped over was others than you, you won’t talk to them in the way you reacted to yourself. Why can’t we be kind to ourselves when we can to others? Being kind to yourself is one of the most important step of self care, but how should one take care of themself? Briefly, I believe it is “to cherish your feeling and thoughts, and interests”. Your feelings and thoughts are the things you want to value the most, otherwise how could people don’t live their lives be kind to others? If you could not value yourself, you would feel like you need somebody you can rely on or wait until something special happens to make you feel accepted enough. But you don’t want to be like that. You want to be able to value yourself on your own. In real life, it is difficult to value and take care of yourself when the society and outside world are often times telling us to be strict to self, and kind to others. So the steps below might help!
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emily
2/11/2019 10:38:00 am
i love the " you are your first priority" saying. although i am not one to follow that often as i prefer to put the needs of others before my own, it is important to check in with yourself and make sure your needs are met too. as the saying goes, "you have to love yourself first before you can love others well". great blog!!
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Connor
2/11/2019 10:39:11 am
We totally need more kindness in the world. People just see other people struggling and they just turn around and act as though nothing’s happening. I always try to put myself in other people’s situations as well, so if someone had dropped a water bottle (for example), if I had dropped my water bottle, I would want someone to help me clean it up, therefore I would help them because they may be feeling embarrassed about the situation. How you treat yourself shows a lot about the people around you. For me in particular, I wouldn’t want to be friends with or surround myself with people who treat me the way I treat myself. Surround yourself with those who make you feel like the best version of yourself.
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Christina
2/11/2019 10:40:36 am
Great blog!! I think that being kind to ourselves is something that we all struggle with. I really like the steps you put in to help us be kinder towards ourselves.
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Matthew
2/11/2019 10:41:51 am
That’s a really I treating thought. Why has society shown us to be super hard on ourselves but then super kind and supportive of others. Maybe it helps drive people?- to be hard on yourself and push yourself, but do it the ways that we do?
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vicky
2/11/2019 10:44:12 am
i really really like this blog! this is something i think about everyday, how should i treat myself. i often find it hard not to expect to much from myself. i enjoyed reading this blog a lot and i had a lot of interesting thoughts.
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Kai
2/11/2019 10:50:44 am
“You are the first priority” I think it is really important staff. Sometime we will forcibly pursue ourselves. It makes you suffer more than your original goal. We must always cherish ourselves.
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Amelie
12/10/2019 09:02:05 am
I have been in that situation before and has affected me alot more than I thought, it's very true how we are the only ones to ourselves that are hard on us, we take some things personally and these things could get out of control without noticing. Self worth is so important to us, because we should put ourselves before some things, on the other hand being kind to others should be like treating us with the same respect whether you arnt happy with yourself or satisfied. I personally think this is something that has been underrated, and should be used more carefully.
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I completely agree. I believe that if we want to truly be happy then we need to make a conscious effort in being comfortable with ourselves and the decisions we make. Yes what others think of us is important but what we think of ourselves is even more important when building confidence and happiness.
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