Patience is probably one of the things I lack the most which is one of the very important traits that a leader should have. I believe that being the eldest child has made me the way I am. Being the eldest sibling comes with a lot of pros and cons, and has also been a huge reason for my short temper and lack of patience. I think my upbringing and home life have been a great factor in why I don't have much of it. I have grown up as the eldest sibling. Being the eldest gives you a lot of responsibility, but also a lot of freedom that my younger siblings do not have. Parenting my younger siblings, and just living with them in general, has affected my patience. Let's be honest, what older sibling has patience for their younger brother or sister? Not very many, but I know that I certainly do not. I try to work on being more patient every day, knowing that it's something I have to work on. To be a good leader you need to have patience, it's a must. I know that patience is something I have to work on based on how I react to certain situations. I notice that I tend to snap at my younger siblings when they upset me over something small and unimportant. Such as asking me to help them with a simple task or taking my things without asking me in advance. I need to change those habits because they can get me into trouble a lot of the time, which is something I obviously don't want, but is sometimes deserved based on my response. Those are just a couple of examples of many times that I will over react instead of responding in a patient and orderly manner. I hope to one day become a more patient person. I hope to learn to not over react as much as I do now. My grandpa is probably the most patient person I have ever met so I can try to learn from the best. He is a very selfless person and is always doing things for other people, no matter what. I will continue to look up to him in hopes of being as patient as he is one day. He is a gem. I have always been told to be patient and to wait for things, and hearing those words always made me feel more impatient. I would sit and tell myself to just be patient, but I then realized sitting there and thinking about it made me feel worse and more stressed out. I think this happened because I would be so incredibly focused on trying to be patient that it just started to upset me. Some things I have been trying to do to improve my patience is to not hyper fixate on things, I'm trying to “patiently” wait for. I also try my best to think before I speak, which prevents me from snapping or getting easily triggered by small things. Becoming a more patient person is definitely a difficult task but has gotten easier considering I have been more aware of it. If you can relate to having a difficult time being patient try not to focus so much on things and just let it happen naturally. I have realized over time that good things come from being patient. Yes it does sound a little cliché, but it's true.
Amelia H
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Eyad
10/26/2022 01:47:51 pm
Paitence isn't something everyone is born with, but its inspiring to see you try and acheive it like you said. Don't feel discouraged if you aren't constantly paitent, no ones perfect :) good luck on your journey
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Lina
10/26/2022 01:48:38 pm
I really liked this blog, especially what you said about being the older sibling. I can really relate to that.
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paige
10/26/2022 01:48:47 pm
I really like this blog. I have a younger sister and I totally get where your coming from. Patience isn't easy and It's something that requires a lot of practice. Thanks for the blog!
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Clare
10/26/2022 01:48:59 pm
You recognizing the fact that you have a low patience tolerance, means to me that you are actually more patient than you think. When it comes to siblings, there is almost no hope to be patient, that is very relatable. I love how you mentioned your grandfather, he must be a great man.
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Kieran
10/26/2022 01:50:03 pm
Sometimes I have a hard time being patient as well, especially when I have to sit and listen for long periods of time. For me, just occupying myself by fiddling with something helps a lot.
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aleyna
10/26/2022 01:50:39 pm
very good blog. very self aware
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Anooj
10/26/2022 01:51:45 pm
Cool blog, relatable since I’m the eldest sibling in my family. I also don’t have much patience with my younger brother, but we get along since we both understand fighting won’t get us anywhere. I like especially like how you have a role model, I’ve found that to help me and people I know be more patient.
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paula
10/26/2022 01:52:19 pm
it gives me the feeling of that I am not the only one thinks about toppings like that and i feel more understood from other people. The post is very good written.
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Aimée
10/26/2022 01:52:31 pm
I really liked how reflected you wrote about this topic. I could see myself in this position too. Impatience is also a behaviour I want and have to work on, to become a better leader. Thank you for sharing :)
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Anna Sonnenberg
10/26/2022 01:52:36 pm
I think this is very relatable. It’s very inspiring that you have found that you can look up to your grandpa. I love how this is something you feel you have improved on but are still working to get better.
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rylyn
10/26/2022 01:52:55 pm
patients is a practice that all of us need to learn and be better with and i can relate when you say its hard to have them with sibling. i have many of the same issues when i have no patients for my friends or family and ends up in a fight.
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Konstantin
10/26/2022 01:53:22 pm
Dear Amelia, thank you for your advices. I guess I’m a very inpatient person too. I want things to Happen as fast as possible, but sometimes good needs a while. My father always tells me ”A good wine takes a while”, and it’s totally true in some cases. I accept myself, but I also want to work on to be more patient
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Lucas
10/26/2022 01:55:19 pm
I can relate to this blog really well. I have a younger brother who annoys the heck out of me with every single thing he does. It doesn't help that he seems to be going through this defiant, extra annoying phase. From eating with his mouth open at every meal, to talking to his friends on the phone really loudly on purpose, it all just makes me want to not be near him. I know that he can't help it because he's doing it as a reaction to something personal that he is dealing with. Since I should be sympathetic and understanding towards him, I also really need to work on being more patient.
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Luis
10/26/2022 02:03:29 pm
I related a lot to the part of being the older sibling and having patience with others. I especially like the topic of your blog because patience, tolerance and resistance are skills that our generation lacks even though our granparent's generation has demonstrated that are essential.
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Melina Mohagheghi
10/26/2022 02:09:20 pm
Thank you for sharing you experience, I totally agree, as the older sister I always struggle how to keep myself calm and to be patient we my brother makes me mad.
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quinn
10/26/2022 02:10:26 pm
I can definitely relate to having little patience with younger siblings and it can be hard to work on it. I'm glad you have someone to look up to and are putting in effort to get better. Thanks for sharing!
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Emma Siebold
9/28/2023 02:08:04 pm
patience is hard for me too, know you aren't alone in that. Like you i'm trying to teach myself that things will come and go and to let it happen naturally. I've noticed i get uncomfortable when i feel out of control and i think that's were my lack of patience comes from. i find that having a little task when I'm feeling that way helps a lot!
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