If you have a sibling you know the ups and downs of having to manage fights and arguments. You may also understand what it's like to be selfless and more sympathetic. Connected by blood siblings understand one another even if they are years apart. My sibling is my twin sister Hunter. When we were born, Hunter had no problems, but I did. I had Aortic Stenosis which is a heart condition that deals with how your valves pump blood to your heart. I had to get surgery only 24 hours after I was born. It was hard for my parents but they knew the doctors would take good care of me. Fast forward to the age of three, I had to have open heart surgery. I had what's called a ROSS procedure which took my existing aortic valve which is almost right in the centre, and replaced it with a healthy valve. Today my sister and I still wonder if this would have happened to her and not me. Of course who knows what would happen if she was in my position. I had been on medication called enalapril for my whole life up until last year. The Valve I had in my body at the age of three still pumps blood perfectly today. Without the need for medicine! My sister is one of my best friends, she is kind, smart and outgoing. I think about what life would be like without a twin. It’s scary. If you had a choice to have siblings or not, which would you choose? Now, being a fraternal twin does have an advantage to how my sister and I are not identical. We do NOT look exactly alike. Though we still have similarities in facial features and tiny ears, we are different people. If you have an older sibling who you see has been successful and smart. That is what you’d want for yourself. That motivation to be like them rubs off on you. If you have a sibling that is not as successful and skips class and fails many of their courses, that may not be the kind of person you’d want to look up to. Family is family, when I see that my sister is feeling sad or angry, I usually just sit on her bed and wait to see if she would want to talk. Siblings are there for each other through the good times in life, and the hard times. It’s important to acknowledge that keeping a close bond with your siblings is important for the future as we grow up. My grandfather and his brother had an argument over something that was powerful enough to have them not speak to each other for 10 years. They only just spoke in person for the first time this past summer since their dispute. They are on good terms as it is now, I could never imagine not speaking to my sister for that long over some silly argument. My grandfather told me he really enjoyed speaking to his brother again and wishes he had done it sooner. Though siblings fight and can hate each other at times. That hatred towards them can’t last forever. Think about how much you would miss your sibling if something bad happened to them and you left things on bad terms? If you think about your siblings or sibling, when was the last time you told them you loved them? I think being a twin is an advantage in some way because the age is the same and by having similar friends through elementary school and high school, has brought us closer as sisters. Sharing with one another about our day is also a great way of how we connect with each other. Life can throw you curveballs just like the one I got thrown at the age of three. My sister was with me through it all. My grandfather regrets how long it was to have no contact with his brother, I know that he wishes he could get those years back. The connections we make in our lives and the people we meet can come and go. Siblings are with you for life, whether you like it or not. Riley M
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albuna
3/2/2020 10:43:37 am
i really connect with this blog because just like u i have sister's too, and i know that my life would be very difficult without them
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Nevada
3/2/2020 10:45:57 am
I thought this was a really powerful blog. I have a younger brother who had a seizure a few years back. He's totally fine now, but it was one of the scariest moments of my life. And I can say 100% that it's true, when everything gets real, you forget all the fights and arguments and bad times. I think that last statement sums up having a sibling "They're with you for life, whether you like it or not".
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Janeva
3/2/2020 10:48:28 am
I feel you on the sister bond. I have a sister and though we fight, oftentimes, we are inseparable. I couldn't imagine living without her - because we are so close in age, we share so many similarities. We motivate each other push harder, take a step closer towards success.
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Maya Arnold
3/2/2020 10:49:47 am
I really enjoyed reading this blog and although my sister and I may not be twins I was able to relate to the part where you said you couldn't imagine not talking to your sibling for a long period of time over a silly argument. My sister and I are very close so not speaking to her would be very hard.
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Rookie
3/2/2020 10:50:39 am
Great blog!
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izzy
3/2/2020 10:50:44 am
i really related to this blog because i have a sister. i am so mad at her right now that i didnt even want to read about siblings.... but im glad i did. this blog made me realize in the big picture she will always be family and disconnecting myself from her is a mistake. this blog actually made me want to text her and tell her im sorry. i loved this blog, it sounds like you and hunter have a great relationship!!
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madison stalling
3/2/2020 10:50:53 am
i can relate to this blog because i have an older brother who is 19. we have many ups and downs but i know ill always have someone to talk to
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dianna
3/2/2020 10:52:10 am
this blog was really powerful because me and my older sister sometimes fight everyday it becomes way to much at times but at the end of the day like you said family is family
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Lukas
3/2/2020 10:52:10 am
Really interesting blog Riley. I have two siblings myself both of which are older sisters and I have a very different relationship with both of them. It’s really cool that you have a twin who you can relate to. The connection you made between your sister and your relationship with her, and your grandfather and his relationship with his brother is very interesting. You’ve definetly seen two opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to siblings and I think that’s a powerful thing. Thank you for the blog
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Georgia
3/2/2020 10:52:30 am
I definitely relate to this blog with Matthew being my twin brother. Like you said with you and Hunter, I could never imagine not talking to Matthew for 10 years, that would be horrible. Although most of the time I can greatly dislike my brother and would like to behead him, I know that he is one of the few people who will always be tied with me and will go through my life with me no matter what he wants :)
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Shirley
3/2/2020 10:56:11 am
Thank you for sharing. I like your relationship with your sister very much. I think this is something that only one child like me can't appreciate. I believe your life is happy. In the future, you and your sister will be with each other for life. You can grow together. Indeed, family cannot choose. However, of course, everyone is unique and irreplaceable.
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Belle
3/2/2020 10:56:19 am
I think it's a good thing to have siblings. Although sometimes there are quarrels and quarrels, they love each other very much. I have an older brother. Your blog reminded me of my childhood. Maybe my brother would have rejected me, but he was very patient with me and cared for me.
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Emilie
3/2/2020 10:58:57 am
Your blog really opens my eyes. How important it is to be in a good relationship with your siblings. Thanks for sharing.
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matthew
3/2/2020 11:05:10 am
I enjoyd your blog and I think that its so cool that that valve is still working great. I havea twin sister and two older brothers. I cant imagine not having them in my live but at the same time Im not very close to them at te moment. my family tells me that I will apreciate them more in the future so im waiting fot that day.
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Olivia Kwiatkowski
3/2/2020 11:35:01 am
I really like this blog- it's so heartfelt and raw, and I think we can all relate to this (regardless whether you have siblings or not). Personally, I am an anxious person and I have always really worried about my sisters- when I was about five years old my mom had to tell me that she was the parent, not me and that I don't have to worry so much about my sisters. I do it because I care so much about them but I think that also causes us to get on each other's nerves.
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Nyah Gentry
10/6/2020 02:20:59 pm
Although I do not have any biological siblings, I really enjoyed your insight of what it’s like. My mom works with adults with disabilities and 5 years ago we moved to Tsawwassen to take him in to live with us. He’s 44 years old but mentally an 8 year old. I love him so much but he does get on my nerves sometimes as any sibling would.
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Alexa Kusel
10/6/2020 02:23:21 pm
Thank you for sharing what you've been through. I relate because I couldn't imagine life without my brother, and I think having siblings is something to be grateful for.
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Devon
10/6/2020 02:32:59 pm
Hi Riley, thank you for sharing! I really enjoyed what you wrote. I myself have a younger sister and have experienced the ups and downs between fights and arguments to then making up. I can relate as in my family, there are a few members that till this day are not on speaking terms. I am hopeful though that sometime in the future we will all reconnect.
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