On November 4th 2023, something happened that completely changed mine and my family's life. It was a casual day, my Dad dropped me off at my friends house that morning, went home, had a cup of tea, and went for a walk, and just didn't come back. I waited at my friend's home for him to come pick me up but he didn't come so I took the bus back. I got home around 7PM, my dad left for his walk around 5 PM. I took my bike and went all over town searching for him for almost 2 hours. Around 9 I asked my neighbour to drive my dads car and look for him. Me, my mom and friend went to look everywhere for him just to find a police car right near the school. I asked the policeman happened. He was removing caution tape from that area. He asked me what my dad was wearing and then he said ‘If i show you a picture can you tell me if it's your dad’ He showed me the picture and my heart shattered as the picture was of my dad. The policeman told me that he got hit by a car and that he was taken to the hospital. The whole time I wondered if my dad was even alive. When I got to the hospital, they made me wait in a room and then a nurse came and met me and said that your dad is alive but he has endured a really serious brain injury. I went into the room and I saw him for the first time. I saw my mom crying, hitting his chest and asking my dad to wake up. I was frozen in the moment, I couldn't move, I was just standing there. Even typing this right now has got me frozen. He was on life support, with tubes and bruises everywhere. I had never thought that something like this would happen. I spent the night at the hospital while they transferred him at the ICU. That night, the doctors came and spoke to us and said that he could never wake up, that he had a serious brain injury and if he does wake up, he could have serious defects. As much as I wanted to cry, I couldn't. I had to take care of my mom, inform the whole family, talk to the police, talk to the staff and worry about my dad all at the same time. The next few weeks went by and dad still hadn't woken up despite being taken off of all sedation medicine. All I could think about was how much I loved him and about how better it would be if I had my family by my side. I was doing everything by myself. I was thinking about how life would be much easier if I had people I loved around me, even just my brother. I never realized how important my family is to me but now I know that they are my everything. My Dad slowly started getting up, at first he opened his eyes a bit and then a bit more, then he started moving his hands, his legs, he started responding to pain and everything came back with time. When he spoke his first words he said ‘where are my mom and dad’ and I cried so hard and finally felt some relief. My Dad didn't remember who I was or who anybody was, he just wanted his parents. He kept asking about his parents and where they were, without even knowing they passed 7 years ago. He too, realized how important family was that day. With time his memories all came back and now he is walking, talking, driving and more. He is on his recovery journey and so am I.
Gurleen
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Mateo
1/31/2024 01:58:33 pm
Gurleen, this must have been such a hard thing to go through, and I am so proud of you for being so strong. Family is super important, and sometimes we don't realize it until we get so close to losing it. I am glad your dad is doing good now, and find it so beautiful that you wrote your blog about family!
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Laetitia
1/31/2024 02:02:25 pm
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I can't imagine how hard it had to be for you and your family. Family is one of the most important things in life and sometimes we don't realise it until something happens. I am happy to hear that your dad is better and wish you and your family only the best.
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Gwen
1/31/2024 02:04:26 pm
That must have been such a scary thing to go through and I'm sorry that happened. I think quite a few people people can relate to not understanding what it means to have a family until something happens that makes you see how important it is. I'm happy your family is recovering from this and that your dad is doing good now.
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Em
1/31/2024 02:08:05 pm
I am so happy to hear your dad is doing better now. I cant imagine how painful that must have been to live through.
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Merle
1/31/2024 02:09:38 pm
First of all it is so strong that you shared this story with us thank you so much. I can't describe how much I'm sorry for you and your family and that this happened to you. Learning how important family is in that way is hard but I'm glad that your dad is doing better.
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Taylor
1/31/2024 02:10:16 pm
Thank you for sharing this! I can't even imagine how difficult this must have been for you and your family, I'm so sorry this happened I really hope he's doing much better and both you and your family are doing better!
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alanna
1/31/2024 02:11:27 pm
Going through situations like this are impossible i am so proud that you are able to continue on through life the way that you are! Family is so important and its hard to see that sometimes without hard situations like this. You are so strong and im so sorry for what you've had to endure.
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Sunsia
1/31/2024 02:13:19 pm
This is an interesting insight for me because in my family, unfortunately, i am the one that always get into accidents so through ur blog i think i can understand what my family went through. I also felt the importance of family during those times but now on the other side i feel like i should be more careful and try to learn the “importance of family” not from unfortunate events but from wholesome events.
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sarah
1/31/2024 02:15:59 pm
This is so heart breaking. Thank you so much for sharing honestly, I am so sorry you had to go through and see all of that. I am so happy to hear that he is getting better
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thank you for sharing your story, this too also got me frozen just by reading it because I've had a similar past experience that involved my grandpa being sent to the hospital for a few weeks. you never expect these kinds of things since you spend most of your early years with your family until something bad happens. I'm grateful for having them.
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