When I was thinking about what to write for this blog my mind went right to how quarantine affects your mental health. You wouldn't really think much about this but it is important. Being in one place not allowed to leave on week’s end is really bad for you and can actually make you mentally ill. Quarantine has 3 major effects on your mind autonomy, competency and connectedness. This isolation we face today is making people feel like they are not in touch with the world because everything has shut down. It pretty much feels like you're trapped, you don't see as many people as you once did. The American Psychological Association says that feeling isolated can lead to poor sleep, depressive symptoms, manage your emotions etc. in the last quarantine 31.% of people had depressive symptoms. If you are feeling these symptoms you can find ways to manage your mental health, for example, you can google ways to help and try a whole bunch of different ones. Here let me google that for you.
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As this school year is rolling towards an end we all begin thinking of what's next. All my friends are stressing about exams and getting into schools. I personally am taking a year off after highschool and I am so happy that I have kept to that decision. In english my teacher just showed us a great video about how you think about stress and what that can change for you. I highly suggest watching it. Stress is defined as a physical or emotional mindset that is derived from the circumstance that is troubling or uncomfortable. Stress is often thought of as a bad thing, but why is that? Many people think of stress and the idea of a jittery hands and shaky tone come to mind. But are these things the body's way of showing anxiety or preparing you for the task ahead. This Ted-Talk about stress could change your life. During this presentation Kelly McGonigal provided facts from researches that proved that the idea of stress is all in the mindset in which you think of it. If you believe it to be a negative thing, then that's exactly what it will be. Then she even said that the people that thought of stress as a negative thing were 30% more prone to death! Where as people that thought of stress as something that can help them, were no more likely to die than those that had little stress.Thats pretty damn scary considering the general outlook on stress. So this brings to mind how can you make stress a friend and not a foe. In life everyone will face stress as some point. Whether it is a family death, a threat of losing your job, or just the overwhelming feeling of life. The important thing is not to allow stress to drag you down like a small ship in a tidal wave, but to become the voyaging ship that sails through the rough water. This is done through personal development and grothe. You must think of each stressful time as a building block of life. Or perhaps a stepping stone. Each situation that creates stress is another tidal wave coming to wipe you away. Instead of allowing that take a deep breathe and think about why this situation is stressing you. From there you have to accept your feelings and devise a plan to work though you stress. This plan will not come overnight however. It will have to be developed over time and with each challenge you will become stronger and more resistant. As my tests are approaching an important evaluations i'll just remember what i'm looking forward to when it's all done and soon i'll go back to that video and revisit my feelings towards stress- you should do the same.
Matthew F If I were to simply ask you, “who are you?” I'm sure that everyone would be able to answer this question. But if you go deeper, do you actually know yourself and not just the name. We all lack the ability to see ourselves and accept how the outside world thinks of us.
There is a common phenomenon in today's society: to think too highly of oneself. And this phenomenon appears in most events. For example, many people consider themselves above the average. Often, we are particularly susceptible to this "false superiority" when making judgments about the qualities we most or least want to have. Do you believe you are someone's best friend? Are you sure you can be a blockbuster artist? Or do you consider yourself the smartest person in your class? If that's in your head, you're at the beginning of a phase of self-knowledge -- self-doubt. The ability to doubt yourself is a sign that you're starting to have a hard time with yourself. Here are four stages of self-knowledge: -doubt -deny -observe -cognitive Many people suffer from self-perception bias. This is not because they think they are too high or low, but because they are unable to determine the standard of self-evaluation. This self-perception bias leads to the duck effect, which is defined as "the lower the ability, the more likely people are to have a high evaluation of themselves, at least their ability evaluation above the average level; People with higher abilities tend to underestimate their abilities, which is a cognitive bias." GUAN W Procrastination. That is something everyone deals with on a daily basis. For some people procrastinating is a very big wall for them to get over then others. It can become very serious because it can stop you from doing your everyday things. Most teens struggle with it when it comes to doing school work and handing it in, talking to teachers or other daily events. It normally starts when you to push things aside that should be done, for example me doing this blog I was procrastinating about, but here I am writing about it. I think a lot of people can relate to procrastinating since everyone has done it some time in there life, if not everyday. The main cause of procrastination is excessive perfectionism, you encourage yourself to do what you want to do, but keep putting it off until you think you can do it perfectly. Main causes of students procrastinating: • Lack of motivation • Low self confidence • Lack of understanding • Fear of failure • Perfectionism • Low energy levels • Poor organization skills Studies have shown that 1 in 5 people are procrastinators. Also 20 percent of US adults are chronic procrastinators, meaning they just don’t procrastinate occasionally, its a huge part of there life. Although the American Psychological Association did a survey and it showed that 80 to 95 percent of students procrastinate over there schoolwork. It is a universal human trait and people who do it a lot are being told they are lazy or worthless, which causes their self confidence to go down. Again thats why the main reason is people wanting it to be perfect so they keep putting it off, if there confidence is down. Anxiety can be apart of procrastination, it is normally a common symptom. Anxiety can be overcome with steps, so that means procrastination can be too. Here are some steps on helping with procrastination; 1 - Recognize your procrastinating. 2 - Work out why you are procrastinating. 3 - Start making anti procrastination strategies. - you could get someone to check up on you or make a reward. 4 - Start making a list and following it every day, even start writing long term goals and those steps too, to achieve them. There are four types of procrastinators; • Anxious procrastinator • Fun procrastinator • “Plenty of time” procrastinator • Perfectionist procrastinator I struggle with procrastinating a lot for doing tasks everyday and school work on the daily. The best way to help me overcome it sometimes is writing a list and following it everyday from most to least important. Natalie D What is stress? And what causes it? Stress is the body's reaction to any change that requires hard thought that could go against you or make you think in ways that you wish not too. The body reacts to these changes with physical, mental, and emotional responses that could cause emotional strain or tension. Things that cause stress are called stressors. There are many things that could cause stress. That could go from too much school work to conflicts at home, so many things can cause stress so it's important to know when you are stressed and how to solve the problems that it brings to you. Is stress normal for me to get? Stress is a normal part of life. You can experience stress from your environment, your body, and your thoughts, even positive changes in your life can cause you stress its all dependent on your situation and your mental health at the time.Your palms may sweat, your mouth could get dry, and your stomach can twist but it’s all very normal. What does stress do to me? And should I worry about it ? Stress can lead to anxiety, Cardiovascular disease, heart disease, high blood pressure, abnormal heart rhythms, heart attacks, and strokes. Worry no, if anything that will cause more stress on you and everything will go downhill from there. Should the stress be left alone absolutely not. Stress that's left unchecked can contribute to many health problems, such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes. If you are noticing signs of stress you should most definitely that to an adult you trust Symptoms of being stressed
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Cameron D R Throughout the final term in this school year I have been more laid back and enjoying myself outside of school more than focusing on my schoolwork, which hasn’t really taken a hit, but with me taking more time for myself, I have found that I have become a much more positive and relaxed person. Maybe it is due to the new people that I have met outside/inside of school, or maybe it is just that I am more happy with myself as a person. I’ve found myself searching for people who have just a good vibe/energy to them, people who aren’t fake and like you for the person that you are. I don’t want to write some sappy blog because that isn’t the person that I am, some of the things that make me more positive are very simple. I find myself having these “holy fuck” moments, now these moments can be simple, or just a sudden realization, such as me listening to music differently and going “holy fuck I didn’t know it was about that”, or hanging out with friends and looking back like “holy fuck that was fun”. Looking back at these moments make me laugh and realize that I have started to appreciate the small things in my life, and enjoying the time I have left in high school. The people that I have recently met over the past school year, have been people that I see as friends when I am an adult, people that I can trust, who I know will be there for me. I found out this year that some of my closest friends weren’t truly my friends, which hurt a bit, and left me confused, but ultimately searching for more real people. I think that this experience has taught me a lot about people, but it taught me that I am better than fake friends. This experience will lead me into adulthood and hopefully make me a better man. I don’t think the search is all that difficult, because most of those people have been
there the whole time, you just had to get to know them more. I kind of glad this happened, because if it didn’t, I still be in that same spot, with friends who I was just kinda friends with, and that was it, not people that I talked to outside of school, went to parties with, or did things with, I wouldn’t be as positive if I was in that same position. Now with university and graduation around the corner, I’ll start to meet new people and will have a different perspective when it comes to choosing who I associate with, and who I am friends with. Still, I love my “holy fuck” moments, and when I realize I am having one, I instantly have a slight chuckle, and I hope I have have many more in the future. Jake V I once heard an analogy that really gave me perspective on what values I should live by and what my life should consist of. It went like this… “You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? "Well because someone bumped into me, of course!" Wrong answer. You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. Whatever is inside the cup, is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It's easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So we have to ask ourselves... "what's in my cup?" When life gets tough, what spills over? Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions? You choose!” When I read that I really had to begin to ask myself, “what am I filling my cup with”. Especially with coffee, when spilt it leaves a stain and is difficult to clean up, so if I fill my life with anger, grudges, and hurtful words, when life shakes me it will leave a stain on the lives around me and those I have affected. It is difficult sometimes to clean up your mess when it spills. This analogy has helped me gain perspective on how I want my life to impact others. If i want others to be impacted positively by my words and actions, I must fill my life with positivity. Some people struggle with understanding how to make that change in their lives. Here are some ways that may help you gain positivity in your life that will then pour out onto those around you. Like a new years resolution, incorporating new habits or adapting to a different lifestyle and way of living can be difficult if not sometimes extremely difficult. Keeping up a positive and strong persona can sometimes become very difficult. Learning how to focus on the good things rather than emphasizing the small negative things is super important in maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself. There is that saying that says “to love others you must love yourself first”, to be able to have a positive affect on others, you must have a positive attitude with yourself and grow as an individual in these areas so that it may spread to those around you. To quote a video that gave me inspiration for this blog it says “the effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is”. So what is in your heart? Do you hold onto the hardship in your life, do you focus on the small negative things that are not going to matter at the end of the day, or do you delight in focusing on the good? How do your actions and words make an impact in the lives of others? What is in your heart will spill out onto others. People won’t remember all of your success, they will remember you by the way you made them feel and the impact you had on their life. What impact do you want to make?
I challenge you and encourage you to think about what your cup is filled with right now. Love? Hurt? Pain? Positivity? Then compare it to what you want your cup to be filled with. Next, I challenge you to think of ways in which you’re able to make small changes to either remove or incorporate new values into your life. You will notice these changes in the way that you interact with others and the impression and impact they gain from you! Continue being a light in the lives of others! Emily C My time at SDSS is almost up, and it’s quite hard to wrap my brain around that. Going into high school, everything I “knew” was all from watching high school depictions in movies. It was safe to say I was terrified because of what the movies showed me. It was also scary because I used to be a very shy kid (and still am to an extent) and my family was very worried about my social skills and whether I would get bullied or not. I didn’t let that rattle me and I just dived right in and tried my best not to overthink it. Over the course of these past five years I have gone through some of the happiest moments in my life, as well as some of the worst moments in my life. The good times are obviously wonderful, but we don’t grow if our lives are positive all the time. The only way we grow is through the struggle. I would not be the person I am today without all of my baggage, because it taught me valuable lessons and allowed me to keep a level head through all of the chaos. Everything I longed for in grade eight, I know have. A song that’s been released to the world, a solid friend group, and am the most confident in myself that I’ve ever been (to some extent). I didn’t know who I would be when I graduated, or what I would want to go into. As a backup plan, I wanted to go into sciences (which is so stupid, I can’t even work an oven) because I was too scared to go into music, which was the start of my anxiety. It used to be really bad, but nowadays it only gets triggered by very few things like being late to class, and putting myself out there, which is why I was scared to go into music. Letting people hear your thoughts is one of the scariest things I’ve ever done, but it’s something I had to do because I had to prove to myself that I was more capable than I thought I was. I got too comfortable in high school, and never pushed myself in school which made me extremely anxious doing anything remotely out of my comfort zone. As you know, I am a man of many classes (3 in school, one x block) and one of my favourite classes was leadership. Honestly, I owe a lot of my tenacity and nerve to taking leadership, as it took me out of my comfort zone, and allowed me to understand my reactions to things, why I was reacting the way I was, and to control that in order to be the best version of myself. Now I’m definitely not the best version of myself, as I feel we are all constantly growing and never truly reach our full potential. As I leave high school, I feel secure, which is extremely rare for me. I love who I am as a student, musician, and person. For years I’ve always tried to prove myself to people and this leads me to one of the most important things I’ve learned: never compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own purpose in life whether you realize that or not. Just because someone has more success than you, or is going to all these fancy schools and you’re not, doesn’t mean that they are better than you. Stay in your own lane. I know that I will never be the kid that the teacher uses an an example of the best assignment or something like that, but I will be the kid who is constantly pushing themselves to be the best artist/person they can be. And for Mr.Hortness, in January of last year I wrote on the front of my journal that I would have a song released, and look where we are now! Psychic is available on all platforms (yes shameless promo) but things really do come full circle. Thanks SD, take care. Connor N People often tell me that they do not know what I am thinking. However, people also tell me that I am so calm, empathetic, and that I am skilled at psychological analysis. I was born and grew up in the Philippines, an island country. My uncle told me that I was famous in the neighbourhood for being very emotional. I was always laughing, crying, and running around. After spending a couple years of my childhood there, I left my home country and lived in Japan with my father. At that time I was still an emotional person, but my personality changed a lot when I was in grade 8. Frankly speaking, I was bullied about my gender. They enjoyed watching me suffer, knowing there was nothing I could do to stop them. Even though I was an emotional person I struggled to understand why I couldn't properly express my anger and frustration. This was the turning point of my emotional state. The emotions I lost first were hope and anger. This happened when I consulted the teacher about being bullied and asked her for help escaping from the endless suffering. However, since the group that was bullying me had leadership in my class and were popular people who were trusted by teachers, she was unwilling to support or help me. She said that I must have misunderstood what they were saying and that the fault was mine, even though she regularly witnessed them bullying me and knew the truth. After hearing this from my teacher hope turned to "nothing" and anger turned to "give up". However, I am convinced that by experiencing this I became stronger and gentler than before. I have come to think more about people's feelings, and I have come to understand the pain of people who are suffering or struggling. There is a saying, "A person who can cure a person's wound is a person who has a scar". The meaning of this is that anyone who can understand pain or suffering is someone who has previously experienced similar pain or suffering. There have been several moments in my life when this quote has proven to be true. Those who can share the sadness of heartbreak are those who have undergone heartbreak in the past, and those who can empathize with the fierce anger of being cheated on are also people who have been betrayed in the past. Surely I have become quieter then before and more logical than emotional. Maybe I've become a more boring person than before, but I like myself now especially as someone who can empathize with people's pain. Maybe I hang out with my friends less often than before, but I like being a person who stays home to take care of my family and enjoy time with them. There will be people who don't understand your current character and people who will judge you but you do not have to change yourself. Other people can not directly change you or cause your growth because you can only do those things yourself.
Here are some sites related to my blog and will help your ideas. ・https://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health ・https://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself ・https://www.success.com/15-brave-quotes-to-inspire-you-to-be-yourself/ Kai I In our life, we will be setting goals for ourselves to become a better person. Well however not all these goals we set for ourselves will be accomplished. But is there a way or ways to increase the possibility of accomplishing most of our goals? First, we need to start with setting a goal that motivates you. which means setting goals that you are actually interested in. If the outcome is not that important for you, or if you think it worth too much to accomplish it, then there is a great chance of you giving up working towards after a few weeks or even after a few days. Therefore “Motivation” is the first key step to achieving goals. Then, after you have set a goal that motivates you, you’ll have to consider if the goal you have set is SMART. When I say SMART I’m not saying you have to be super intelligent it means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound. Specific, “Your goal must be clear and well defined”. When you have a goal that is clear and well defined you will have a specific destination and direction so you can reach it smoothly. If not, you might feel lost or don't know what to while you’re approaching your goals. Measurable, make your goal measurable means give it a time period so there is something to measure and compare if you have improved. For example, “I want to increase my Math mark by 10% in the next 3 month” instead of “I want to improve my Math”. Attainable, When you’re setting a goal make sure your goal it's possible for you to achieve it. You will only demoralize yourself and erode your confidence if your goal is unachievable. Relevant, make sure your goal is actually relevant to the road you’re going to take in the future. If you are aiming to become a great singer then you should set a goal towards singing, writing songs and musical instrument. In this case “I want to increase my Math mark by 10% in the next 3 month” will not help too much. Time-Bound, A goal should have a deadline. Adding a deadline to your goal will increase your sense of urgency this will make you work harder and more efficient at achieving that goal. Also, this means that you know when you can celebrate success. Finally, Stick With It! That's the most important part of accomplishing your goals. When you have set a long term goal you might not notice any difference, building a daily plan and a reminder to keep yourself on track and ongoing is very important. Achieving a goal can be hard but no matter how hard it is and how much work it takes as long as it’s worth it then you shouldn't give up. Eventually, when you have reached your goal you will be so proud of yourself.
Martin G Why do some people stand out and captivate with their personality while we completely forget about others? What makes people unique and likeable? I’m pretty sure we all had that moment when we talked to a person and we get fascinated by their personality while we totally get bored by others. I think that an important reason for that is someone’s charisma. But what exactly is that? The definition by the Collins Dictionary describes it pretty well: “Someone has charisma when they can attract, influence and inspire people by their personal qualities.” There are some famous people most of you probably know that had a great charisma which definitely helped them being successful in their career and life, like Gandhi, Marilyn Monroe or John F. Kennedy. There is also a great book someone told me about, written by Sally Hogshead, that is called “How the world sees you”. It tries to help and describe how to captivate people with our appearance and how to properly bring our personality to the public eye. She believes that everyone has unique strengths with which they can fascinate others with, when used properly. There is even a study by Amir Eretz where the result proofs that talking to charismatic people makes others happy. Therefore, I’d say that charisma is a very important leadership skill, but people don’t agree if you can learn that skill or if charisma is an innate characteristic.
Here are some characteristics that charismatic people have and that you might find in yourself and/or can improve:
Viktoria D. A couple of years ago when I was in Mexico on vacation, a pelican tried to kill me when I was swimming. Sure it was most likely just flying over me and chilling by itself, but I thought I was going to be violently pecked to death because it kept following me. Therefore, I may or may not be slightly afraid of pelicans. In addition to being displeasing to the eye, these spine chilling and belligerent birds have been the cause of nightmares as well as the reason for my brief research on fear. Generally fears are generated from traumatic instances and experiences in your life, more often than not, budding from childhood, i.e. my very traumatic experience with the vicious pelican. So I chose to inform readers about why we fear considering that everybody has some kind of fear, whether it’s completely normal like a fear of spiders or of heights, or a weird aversion to pelicans such as myself. Although scarring occasions can cause the development of a specific fear, we also develop fear as a preservation method. We wouldn’t survive for long if we weren’t afraid of anything. We would go freediving with sharks, take up sword swallowing and attempt to reenact the countless scenes atop of moving trains in spy movies because fear (and common sense for that matter) wouldn't be holding us back. Try to imagine if humans weren't afraid of anything… our world would be in total chaos and the population would dwindle drastically. Yet, if humans had no fears, there would be no fear of judgment, failure or any mental barriers to stop someone from doing something they really want to do and that could positively impact their surroundings. Then again the world would still be in complete disarray, so I guess that wouldn't really matter or help anyways. Fear comes from imagination, we imagine what could happen, and the worst case scenarios in any given situation. For example if you are afraid of the dark, it is because you imagine something bad happening whilst in the dark, furthermore, we sometimes experience fear due to anticipation. Some people naturally have more anticipation and more imagination than others, and that causes them to develop multiple fears because they can imagine different things happening that stem from one event or thought. Imagination is a very beneficial quality to have because it makes your life more exciting and colourful, but on the other hand you may find that you acquire more fears. Anticipation is not a prime quality to possess in certain situations because then you might live most of your life in fear of what could happen, and miss out on some amazing experiences. Back in grade 8, I did a little personal research project on the different kinds of fears and why people have them because I was always curious as to why I personally haven’t experienced many situations involving fear. There are multiple ways someone can respond to a situation in which they’re nervous or scared, the fight, flight or freeze response includes the ways someone will react. Fight or flight is the natural response of humans when we are presented with an urgent or sudden act of danger, even if there is no immediate threat and someone is only perceiving something as a potential danger. Just as it sounds, “fight” is when someone chooses to confront the situation, and “flight” is when they avoid it or choose to run away. Most people aren’t aware that freeze is also a common reaction, when deciding to freeze, the person will lock up and won’t react at all. Fight or flight can be a useful mechanism, although, occasionally it isn't always a valid reaction. Half the time, fight or flight is triggered by a false alarm such as a sudden loud sound. How to cope and hopefully overcome your fears
Fear is beneficial and non-beneficial in many ways. It keeps us from making bad or stupid decisions, and from dangerous or painful experiences that could happen if we didn't have fear to prevent us. On the other hand, if we fear everything we could miss out on so many amazing experiences and most of life's many beauties and mysteries. As “Lotto 649” says, “the world is your playground”, don't let fear hold you back from the gifts that life has to offer. So live it up. Georgia F The whole anxiety thing is something i have struggled with for a while now. I didn't even ever know what somatization was till i experienced it for myself head on. About a year and a half ago i first experienced somatization for the first time waking up feeling paralyzed from the waist down was something that was quite alarming for me and my parents. Who would have thought that not talking about what was going on in my life and struggling to find balance could have resulted in this. Somatization is when the production of recurrent and multiple medical symptoms with no describable organic cause. Somatization basic symptoms are: -nausea -abdominal pain -fatigue -headaches Conversion disorder ( more severe and sudden onset of debilitating symptoms) -paralysis -blindness -numbness -loss of speech -deafness Children's hospital was nothing new to me unfortunately for most of my grade 10 and 11 year i was in and out that counts for a lot of hospital apple juice and the best ice chips down the hall from my room. The thing is what can you do this was the hardest part physiotherapy and cognitive behavior therapy could only do so much. While my stay i learned about a program called music heals every day i would just wait till it hit four o'clock so i could go hang out with the music therapist that helped me overcome my problems through the love of music. This is also the charity emily and i are doing are service project on because i believe kids with somatization and any type of sickness should experience this for many reasons. The I of the Storm The difference between me and you is in my mind an artist is painting a picture So crazy and abstract that my arms, legs, feet and toes are beginning to convey the concept in the wrong way as if two artists are in a grand battle, fiending to paint the next Mona Lisa Since other people can not see or touch anxiety They believe it to be unrealistic You battle your fears, hopes and dreams in a constant 24/7 cycle and mix that with everyday life it is like a town Getting hit by the raging wave of a tsunami and expecting it to leave it dry And sometimes you get stuck in the impact zone and it tosses and turns you until you can’t breathe, gasping for air but eventually you will have to ride the wave again until you learn how to cope with your own personal storm And I finally come up for air The waters are clear and still I have learned to duck under the impact zone Although the waves may still come I now know, not to surf in a tsunami The poem above may not look like much but this was definitely a huge step in the right direction for me. I was never really able to explain how i felt until this grade eleven English project when i could express myself through poetry. Anxiety has definitely helped shaped my life for the good and bad , but i am a strong believer in things happening for a reason and it has definitely made me see life in a different way.
Marika Lyszczyk “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice." -Steve Jobs I never liked dresses, dolls, ballet classes or what little girls are supposedly supposed to like or do. I have always played multiple sports, been a total book nerd, lived in jeans and the extent of my dancing is swaying side to side snapping or sometimes spontaneous square dancing with anybody who’s unfortunate enough to be around me. So naturally, life has served me plenty of identity crisis moments and I’m sure there will be a copious amount to come in the future. The first minor identity crisis was when I was 13 years old. Let me set the scene. It was the end of grade 7 and the graduating class of 2015 was celebrating our completion of elementary school and the upcoming progression to high school. I remember asking all the girls what they were going to wear to the awards ceremony and the dance; dresses or pretty skirts were described, accompanied with cute shoes and maybe a purse. I didn’t own a dress, nor did I have a skirt or purse. At this point my life I was at the peak of my Adidas warm-up pants/runners/athletic shirt combo and wouldn’t have been caught dead in any kind of shoes other than converse or runners. The dance was of course fancy dress but I had pleaded with my mum multiple times over the course of weeks if I could wear jeans and a nice top. Long story short I ended up wearing a dress. I remember crying on the way to the ceremony and hating every time I had to cross my legs because of the stupid flowery dress. I felt ugly and sad because I didn’t feel comfortable and didn’t want to wear what everyone else was wearing. The Merriam-Webster dictionary’s definition of identity crisis is “personal psychosocial conflict especially in adolescence that involves confusion about one’s role and often a sense of loss of continuity to one’s personality”. Most people experience their first identity crisis in their teens generally revolving around their personality, social status, gender role physical appearance and many other things. Personally, my identity crisis was that I was so confused about why I was so different to kids my age, I never wanted to talk about it so I stayed quiet about my feeling of isolation and continued on with my life. For a long time I wanted to pretend to be someone I wasn't in order to fit in and I was having a lot of trouble with my identity. Flash forward to now and I’m happy and comfortable with my quirky personality and I like being different. Here is a website that I remember reading and sometimes I look back at if I just to check in with myself. It's important to know that going through a period in your life where you are uncertain of yourself, your worth or your identity is normal, but it's also important find help concerning your situation. Here are some tips for dealing with an identity crisis, especially during adolescence.
I regret not opening up sooner about my state of very low self-esteem, because I’m sure that talking to somebody would have helped me feel less alone. And so, if you don’t like dresses, dolls or ballet classes then that’s ok, just figure out what you do like and love yourself unconditionally.
Georgia F Do you ever wonder why people don’t respect you as a leader? Do you ever notice them not being motivated to help out your team at all? Chances are you don’t notice these things because you have your head in the clouds and you’re too busy on your power trip to take into account anyone else’s feelings. Hi I’m Connor Nelson and welcome to my Ted Talk. Today I’m going to be attempting to teach you how to not be an arrogant piece of shit, so if you can please put your ego aside and listen to these tips. At one moment in everyone’s lives, they get a little (a lot) carried away when in a leadership position and actually end up distancing themselves from a lot of their peers due to being under the dangerous influence of power. So if you have never been in this position, been called out for being in this position OR are in this position right now, then you’re in luck because I will be giving you some tips to help lessen your giant air-head and help you come back to earth. After reading the 13 habits of humble people by Jeff Boss, I definitely learned a few things that can better everyone as a leader no matter what level you are. Leaders with humility can easily retain relationships with others rather than annoying them away, take into account everyone’s thoughts and opinions instead of listening to no one and just doing what they want, and they are never too proud to ask for help! Something I notice a lot is that when someone who has a big head is in a power position, nobody has fun and the “leader” ends up just doing whatever they please and push everyone away because nobody wants to be around them. The simplest things can really make the biggest difference, such as taking the time to remember your manners! Remember those? As well, you have to have a level mentality, meaning you can’t go into a task as a leader thinking you’re above everybody and that they’re all here to serve you, that’s not leadership. Leadership is working together as one whole unit to complete a task as a team, not as the leader and then everyone else. Everyone is equal and everyone should be treated the same, no one is more special or more disposable than the next person. Now there have been some instances in which my confidence is mistaken for arrogance, and it was hard for me to tell how I was coming off to others, so to help you out here are 7 Subtle Signs your Confidence might come off as Arrogance.
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